So when my whole world is a high needs, tantruming toddler who doesn't sleep, & a fussy, colicky baby who cries all day & doesn't sleep, what can I possibly do to recharge....?
I'm so miserable right now. & I can't snap out of it. All I hear is crying or angry outbursts (or both at the same time)....so how can I snap out of my bring miserable when everyone around me is in a constant state of miserable?
What do you do to fill your happiness cup or get some calm back in your life?
My baby is breastfed & feeds as frequently as hourly so I can't have a break from him
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13-08-2014 08:16 #1Senior Member
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How do you recharge or "fill your cup"
13-08-2014 08:24 #2
I have a tim tam or similar bad treat and tell myself that in a months time, it won't be the same. Kids grow and change so fast, subtle change happens all the time without notice. It's only upon looking back that we see it.
It always lifts me up when I realise that thing are slowly improving, even if its not at a pace I would like.
13-08-2014 08:26 #3
Hugs xxoo its a bloody tougg gig this mothering thing!! I have 4 kids aged 7, 4, 2 and 3 months and hubby works interstate, no family or friends close by for support. Totally understand where you are coming from.
Have you spoken to your dr about it? Not saying you are depressed or anything like that, but they may be able to put you in touch with a councilors or something to talk to and give you ways to help destress.
For me, as hard as it can be some days, I always try to make sure I get even 5 minutes to myself. Usually its going for a shower once all kids are asleep and imagining all the negativity of the day washing down the drain with the water. Sounds silly but it feels like a weight has been lifted. I also get my nails done once a month. I have to take kids with me so it's not alone time but its nice to be doing something for ME. If need be, pop bub in the cot and let him cry for 5 mins, go outside and just sit in the sunshine. Bub is safe, and its ok to step just step away for 5 to recharge and regroup before tackling it again.
Are there any mums groups around you? Even have a look on fb if you are on it. Im always up for a chat if you want so feel free to pm me.
You are doing a wonderful job xo
He + Me = dd1 (July 2007), dd2 (July 2010), dd3 (August 2012), dd4 (May 2014)
Embrace the chaos
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13-08-2014 09:16 #4
I don't have a toddler to contain but I make sure I pop DS in his bouncer every day and have a good shower.. It sounds like such a small thing but some music and cleansing water, for me, makes most things livable.
Again, for me, I found the hardest thing about breastfeeding was the never alone factor..
13-08-2014 10:19 #5-
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Pick a TV show you like (bold and beautiful, days Of our lives, dr Phil) and make sure you watch it each day with a cuppa. Give your toddler an activity to do during this time (eg watching a DVD on another TV or tape your show so you can play it during your toddlers nap time). If this sounds like your thing, put doing this as a top priority for your day.
13-08-2014 10:23 #6
hi monkeysmummy, its hard to remember back, but I think I would use the tv as a babysitter, or we would all go for a walk. I know I had a playpen, that would hold the girls and my oldest would watch playschool and sesame street so that gave me a short break. I did go to playgroup and to a wonderful mchn once a week, so that was where I got the strength and courage to face another week. hugs, marie.
13-08-2014 10:31 #7Senior Member
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Chocolate oh so much chocolate
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13-08-2014 10:32 #8
Is your toddler with you every day? If you have a babysitter available or can use a day of childcare, take advantage of it and get a break. Pop bub in the pram and go for a walk, put on a movie, go buy something really yummy for lunch or sit outside in a nice park. Sometimes things feel so much better outside the house!
I really feel for you, it's exhausting and frustrating and relentless... Sometimes all you want to do is be alone for an hour!
13-08-2014 10:54 #9
13-08-2014 13:49 #10
I was going to write nothing, because I am in the same boat- but it's a public holiday today and bub had just been fed, so I passed him to DH and took the dog for a long walk. First time I have been alone in 6 weeks and it was bliss.
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