I have a 4 year old son and we do lots together but he is obsessed with trains and wants me to play trains with him a lot. I really do struggle to enjoy this. We do activities outside and visit friends but there's days it's just us and he wants me to play trains all day! Even half an hour is enough for me. He gets upset if I try to get out of it though, he's very persistent! Lately I'm busy and just don't have the patience or will to play trains, so he has to play alone a lot and I feel so cruel if he asks me to play and I say I can't right now... do I need to change my attitude or is this ok? I feel guilty. I know kids need to be able to play on their own, but how much is too much?
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11-08-2014 18:00 #1
Should I play with my son more?
11-08-2014 18:01 #2
30 mins would be more than enough for me!!
11-08-2014 18:02 #3Senior Member
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I could have written this! My son is 2.5 and always ask me to play with him and I cant say no but I really can only do 10mins at a time.. feel so bad about it but we do so much together outside of playing toys too.. park ..playing on the bed etc..
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11-08-2014 18:13 #4
I would be encouraging him to play on his own more.
Don't feel guilty. My 4.5 year old always wants me to play everything with him.
I feel I get very minor "me" time.
It's important for him to amuse himself.
Play with him for 1/2 hour and go off then come back for a bit more.
I feel like I nag my son off me a lit if the day. He nags me and hassles me and then I snap.
Then I get the guilts up.
11-08-2014 18:31 #5
when my DD was this age it was Dora lego ... same thing though.
I could not take any more. So I set myself some time to play, and explained to her that I would play for 30 minutes and after that she would have to play by herself with it.
I generally did that 2 times a day ... but it drove me completely mental.
It is just a phase (sadly, a long one) but they do grow out of it eventually. You are NOT a bad person for not being enthralled by your child playing trains 24/7
11-08-2014 18:35 #6
Ugh. I remember DS's obsession with trains, Thomas the bloody tank engine. I couldn't stand playing trains with him. I'd happily do any other activity with him, but sitting there pushing around those little toy trains all day every day was excruciating. And I felt so guilty for hating it.
Unfortunately I just forced myself to do it, but I think 30 minutes of play a day was my limit.
Do you drink wine?
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11-08-2014 18:41 #7
DS is 3.5 and up until about 2 months ago would happily play by himself but lately wants me to play as well ( superheroes usually and I'm always the bad guy!) so I normally say ok I can play with you for a little bit but then I have to do washing/cooking/ work whatever so then you can play with your toys for a while until dad gets home - he understands and does whinge a little bit but as long as he gets to play for a while with me and I tell him why I can't play all the time he's ok
11-08-2014 18:42 #8
11-08-2014 20:35 #9Senior Member
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I got my kids into playing zombies... It was fun at first... Now its torture as they want me to be a zombie alllll day... Theres only so
much undead one can be!!! I do small blocks 10 minutes etc... I find im
busy all day with housework on days off and both kids are always wanting me to
play.. I feel like i fob them off so much... Mummy guilt. I feel like i need to play more all the time ... I hate how guilty it makes me feel.
11-08-2014 21:05 #10
I don't suppose he'd be happy to drive them around on your back while you lie down? It might almost be as good as a massage
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