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    I accidentally came across an ad today put up by my ex-h looking for a babysitter for this Friday night for my son who will be in his dad's care as per current orders. The ad says he is paying $10/hr and the person must have a driver's license and references. Given the website he put it on, the fact that my son has not met the person yet and given the low hourly rate, I feel highly anxious. What do you think?

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    No, I would be very anxious in your situation.

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    I would feel anxious also. I don't like the idea of strangers babysitting my kids, especially in those circumstances.

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    If he has something else to do why can't he just leave him with you. Surely that's preferable to a stranger! Yes, I would be anxious and I would be addressing the issue with him.

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    Yeah I wouldn't be happy at all with that

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    Quote Originally Posted by HeavenBlue View Post
    If he has something else to do why can't he just leave him with you. Surely that's preferable to a stranger! Yes, I would be anxious and I would be addressing the issue with him.
    He wouldn't do that as he has narcissistic traits. I did offer but he turned me down.

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    Well that sucks. So he'd rather leave him with a stranger. Sounds like a typical jerk to me. I can't understand that. Well perhaps be upfront that you've seen his ad and you are not happy and see if another solution can't be found? Another family member isn't an option?

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    I would be very upset. He is proposing to leave your child in the care of someone you don't know and haven't met. That's not ok.

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    You have a right to be anxious and upset. Your son will be left with someone you don't know, don't even get to choose and only needs a drivers license! I'd be really anxious too.

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    I'm not sure how parenting orders work - but could you just tell ex that DS is sick and can't visit? Then he can stay home with you and ex presumably won't want to look after a 'sick' DS.

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