Not sure where to put this but I need advice.
the postie put a private and confidential letter into the wrong mailbox (next doors). We don't talk to next door or really get along with them as they hate our dog.
anyways, I saw the lady next door wonder over to our mail box and put a letter in it. I thought it would be another about our dog. She is too gutless to talk and compromise like an adult. She gets her husband to bang down our door at 9pm of a night if they have a problem with the dog during the day.
so, I got the letter and it was clearly opened and tampered with. This letter was from child support services. In it, describes everything me and my family are going through ATM. Alcohol addiction, depression, pnd, anxiety and financial stress.
It was addressed to me with red PRaiVATE and CONFIDENTIAL stamped on the front of the letter. It smelt of cigarette smoke. We don't smoke.
i don't know my rights on this but I am furious and so upset.
I want to go in to her and asked if she enjoyed nosing through our PRIVATE mail that was addressed to ME. That I can see the damn letter was opened, it was barely sealed, I'm not a Moron. Stupid old cow.
It it was the posties mistake. But now my hideous neighbour knows about EVERYThInG. Including where and when my kids go to daycare.
im so so so upset about this.
What's the mature thing to do?
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29-07-2014 11:40 #1Senior Member
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My neighbour read my private and confidential mail :(
29-07-2014 11:42 #2Senior Member
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Whoa. That's so not on. It's illegal to open another person's mail. I don't know where you go from here, but it is illegal so you should have some right. Hopefully someone else can come and give you some better advice, but I am so sorry this happened to you.
29-07-2014 11:56 #3
Its a pain in the butt but she probably didn't even look at the name on the envelope being that it was in her letter box.
I have opened my neighbour across the roads mail because it was in our letter box on more than one occasion. I didn't realise it wasn't for me until I read it.
I have always gone over and explained what has happened and she hasn't cared.
29-07-2014 11:59 #4
I unintentionally opened a letter to my neighbour once, it was in my mailbox, I did not flip it over and look at the front, just ripped open the envelope.
So, I guess what I am saying is, it might have been an accident?
29-07-2014 12:00 #5
I ALWAYS open mail not addressed to me by mistake. Grab it out open it then think WTH is this? Oops not my name.
So it may be an innocent mistake, which regardless she will say it was even if she was being a snoopy old cow
So honestly I doubt there is really anything to be done unfortunately.
29-07-2014 12:01 #6
Yep I'm another that has accidentally opened mail that hasn't been mine but was in my letter box. I just get it out and open it without really looking at the name given we live her and expect we get our own mail.
I can understand your angst, and it really is unfortunate. But it may well not have been intentional.
29-07-2014 12:04 #7Senior Member
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It may possibly have been a mistake. But with our history, I can't help but feel she may have seen "child services" and wanted to sticky beak. I feel so vulnerable and awful ATM.
I always check who my mail is addressed to. I think in future I will be asking that child services contact me through email or phone.
29-07-2014 12:05 #8
Same I've opened my neighbours mail by mistake. Confronting her won't undo her knowing your business. Perhaps she will be nicer now she knows what you're struggling with?
29-07-2014 12:10 #9
Hopefully it was just a mistake as pp's have said, she may not have even read it. If it were me, as soon as I saw the name at the top of the letter I would have immediately put it back in the envelope and not read any further.
29-07-2014 12:11 #10
I can understand how you are upset by it though. Is there anyway you can let her know it upset you and any information she read should be kept to herself?
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