You know what I think? I think he's broken and bruised and in a state that when anyone at all shows him kindness he's going to imprint on them and think they have a connection and that he's met someone. I don't think he's a jerk, I think he's healing, and when you're broken like that you don't always know what you're feeling properly iykwim.
I agree with others who say keep well away, but it's not a reflection on you. I think he is going to keep 'passing over' women because every positive interaction is going to seem like it was meaningful and should therefore be explored. I also wouldn't be surprised if this new person doesn't pan out and he tries to come back to you/tries to confide in you about it.
Obviously you know him better, but based on everything you've said it is hard to believe he is just a jerk after all.
ETA @Bonezart did that muddled puddles thing come from your brain just then? If so, totally in awe of you...
+ Reply to Thread
Results 371 to 380 of 428
12-09-2014 07:10 #371
I just want to share (partnered people welcome)
12-09-2014 07:24 #372
12-09-2014 07:25 #373
I once had a guy tell me he was going on a trip to Brazil so he wouldn't have to see me again. Then like a year later a guy told me he was going to Tibet ... Needless to say I was pretty wary of men for a long time (for that and many other reasons).
12-09-2014 07:31 #374
12-09-2014 07:50 #375
I am of the "everything happens for a reason" school of thought, so I would like to think that maybe he wasn't meant for you to be long term but to get you comfortable opening up and be comfortable with the possibility with a relationship. I think he is probably in a very confused state with all that's going on in his life between his separation and feelings for you then having to back off from you for whatever reason he had then he meets this other girl, it would be a confusing time for anyone. If he is the one you are meant to be with then when the time is right you will cross paths again.
The Following User Says Thank You to loodle For This Useful Post:
12-09-2014 08:12 #376
What a pig! You are far too good for him.
12-09-2014 08:24 #377
This just shows how mixed up he truly is. He's no way near ready for a relationship and I feel like he's been very unfair to you, even if that wasn't his intention.
Please don't think it's you, because it's his issue, and very much his loss
12-09-2014 08:46 #378Senior Member
- Join Date
- May 2014
I've been following but haven't posted in ages because well a) I don't know you like other members do and b) There was nothing else I could add....
However, I do agree with everyone else in that he is either one seriously broken man, or he just a total douche. Do not let his issues sit on your shoulders...shake yourself off and understand that you just dodged a bullet. It's a good thing you didn't invest heaps of time in to this....you definitely deserve someone better, someone who will treat you right. He is not the one for you.
12-09-2014 08:55 #379
Thanks guys - I'll reply a little more personally later on. I know I shouldn't take this on as something wrong with me - but it's hard not to take it a little personally.
12-09-2014 08:58 #380
Do you think its maybe a case of 'He knows that he isnt ready for a relationship - but he cant seem to be able to keep away from you - so he is telling you something to make you hate him' ?
I have doubts about the 'met someone else' story .. but I dont doubt that he isnt ready for a relationship
and I dont doubt that he isnt even CLOSE to being good enough for you hun.
You desere someone who will walk over broken glass just to be with you. Who worships the ground you walk on. Dont accept less
By Coop8818 in forum Family FinancesReplies: 7Last Post: 27-06-2014, 07:00
By sunnyflower in forum General ChatReplies: 51Last Post: 13-06-2014, 14:44
By sunnyflower in forum General ChatReplies: 52Last Post: 13-06-2014, 06:30
Innovations Sports PhysiotherapyWomen’s Health Physios who are able to assess and treat a wide range of Pregnancy and Post Natal Issues. We offer ...
LATESTWhat is a blessing way? How is it different to a baby shower?7 ways to break the ‘mumnotony’ at homeGuide to government family benefit payments
POPULARWhen can I start giving chores to my children?New baby nursery checklist – a guide to newborn essentialsWhat to pack for labour and hospital – a checklist
FORUMS - chatting now ...
IVF babies due Sep/Oct/Nov 2017pregnancy and babies through IVF
April/May TTC group chatConception & Fertility General Chat
Pokemon go. Chat #2General Chat
Babysitting dilemmaGeneral Parenting Tips, Advice & Chat
The Vampire Diaries LAST EPISODEMovies / Music / Books / TV Chat
Missed miscarriage... waiting, waiting, waitingPregnancy Loss Support
How long would you leave your 8 (almost 9) year old at home alone?General Parenting Tips, Advice & Chat