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    Hey ladies ... I'm totally fine - I'll pop on when I have a chance to update properly.

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    Ok update time

    He called last night - sounded really flat. I've actually not heard him like that before. He said he'd been on the phone with his mum beforehand.

    We were chatting a bit and he said he'd been doing a lot of thinking. He is worried about 'us' and thinks we might be moving too quickly. He's concerned he can't give me all of him and that I might get hurt. He wanted us to slow things down.

    I explained I didn't actually even consider us an 'us'. He kept making references to us 'being together' last catch up, which I just let slide - but didn't contribute to. I think he's moving along more quickly in his head than in reality and it's given him concern.

    I also told him that I didn't want all of him, that I was just getting to know him and enjoying his company - but I wasn't asking for anything. I explained that I completely know his head would be all over the place and that perhaps I need to just take myself out of the picture and let him work through the emotions of his separation.

    So I've made a decision now to not be involved with him until he feels good within himself again. I really really like him, think he's a great guy, he has a wonderful heart - but he's still very raw and wounded and I don't want the stress of a relationship like that for him or for me.

    Who knows what the future holds??- but for now I think it's best for both of us to back away completely. He says he wants to slow things ... But I know his mind is constantly battling between wanting things for the future in terms of me - and struggling with his marriage being over. Bad timing is all .... I'm a little disappointed but not upset. It is what it is I guess.

    Thanks for all of your support and excitement
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    Ah geez

    Sounds like you guys had a fantastic connection. I wouldn't be surprised if you rekindle once things settle down a bit. Seems like he was moving faster than you and maybe after talking to his mum he had a reality check?

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    Sorry to hear that but it's not over till the fat lady sings. I told my husband we should slow things down shortly after we started things up, and look where that got me!

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    Typical MIL giving you grief already :-)

    I hope things work out the way they're supposed to between you two x

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    Quote Originally Posted by harvs View Post
    Typical MIL giving you grief already :-)

    I hope things work out the way they're supposed to between you two x
    Oh I don't think his mum was giving any grief ... He talks to her a lot though - which I think is a good thing. She knows him well and any advice given I'm sure would be in his best interest.

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    Quote Originally Posted by [Mod] Degrassi View Post
    Ah geez

    Sounds like you guys had a fantastic connection. I wouldn't be surprised if you rekindle once things settle down a bit. Seems like he was moving faster than you and maybe after talking to his mum he had a reality check?
    Yeah I think that's perhaps the case. He wears his heart on his sleeve. I can imagine we might connect again sometime in the future - I won't ignore him if he makes contact ... But I think it's much too soon for him and he would probably bring his unresolved feelings into it. I've been in a similar position before and it didn't end well.

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    Aww

    I just read through the thread. I was so invested in this! Your writing is awesome.

    I hope, over time, he finds himself in a positive, healthy, happy place and also reconnects with you.



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    It sounds like it's for the best, he probably is a bit raw still if the break up was recent.


 

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