Hey ladies ... I'm totally fine - I'll pop on when I have a chance to update properly.
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30-07-2014 06:46 #171
30-07-2014 09:13 #172
Ok update time
He called last night - sounded really flat. I've actually not heard him like that before. He said he'd been on the phone with his mum beforehand.
We were chatting a bit and he said he'd been doing a lot of thinking. He is worried about 'us' and thinks we might be moving too quickly. He's concerned he can't give me all of him and that I might get hurt. He wanted us to slow things down.
I explained I didn't actually even consider us an 'us'. He kept making references to us 'being together' last catch up, which I just let slide - but didn't contribute to. I think he's moving along more quickly in his head than in reality and it's given him concern.
I also told him that I didn't want all of him, that I was just getting to know him and enjoying his company - but I wasn't asking for anything. I explained that I completely know his head would be all over the place and that perhaps I need to just take myself out of the picture and let him work through the emotions of his separation.
So I've made a decision now to not be involved with him until he feels good within himself again. I really really like him, think he's a great guy, he has a wonderful heart - but he's still very raw and wounded and I don't want the stress of a relationship like that for him or for me.
Who knows what the future holds??- but for now I think it's best for both of us to back away completely. He says he wants to slow things ... But I know his mind is constantly battling between wanting things for the future in terms of me - and struggling with his marriage being over. Bad timing is all .... I'm a little disappointed but not upset. It is what it is I guess.
Thanks for all of your support and excitement
Last edited by Theboys&me; 30-07-2014 at 09:17.
30-07-2014 09:28 #173
Sounds like you guys had a fantastic connection. I wouldn't be surprised if you rekindle once things settle down a bit. Seems like he was moving faster than you and maybe after talking to his mum he had a reality check?
30-07-2014 09:49 #174
Sorry to hear that but it's not over till the fat lady sings. I told my husband we should slow things down shortly after we started things up, and look where that got me!
30-07-2014 09:56 #175
Typical MIL giving you grief already :-)
I hope things work out the way they're supposed to between you two x
30-07-2014 09:59 #176
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30-07-2014 10:40 #179
I just read through the thread. I was so invested in this! Your writing is awesome.
I hope, over time, he finds himself in a positive, healthy, happy place and also reconnects with you.
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30-07-2014 11:19 #180
It sounds like it's for the best, he probably is a bit raw still if the break up was recent.
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