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16-07-2014 03:27 #91
16-07-2014 05:24 #92
The same way I would never book anything significant on a weekday as everyone works. Just cos I don't work FT doesn't mean I don't consider others attending.
Obviously it's vastly different for @anewme and myself compared to many on this forum. It would be unthinkable that my circle of family/friends would specifically exclude kids. I certainly don't take them everywhere but I get to decide as I know my kids and their ability to cope in certain surroundings.
wifey of hubby who is always away. mother of two girls who are always amusing.
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16-07-2014 08:09 #95
I know I was the one who said why do others have to factor in your children but thinking about it now it's actually just how some families work. I know for my own 40th I had a party in the park in the afternoon so all my friends could bring their kids. I had just given birth to DS and didn't want to leave him for a night out so made sure I didn't have to. I love having parties during the day so my kids and others can come along, but sometimes I do also want grown up time.
For me my children are the centre of my universe but I know they're not the centre of anyone else's. So while I'll go out of my way to include my kids in significant events and as a consequence others usually can to, it's not something I "expect" from other people.
16-07-2014 08:17 #96Senior Member
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I'm not one to be offended if my daughter isn't invited to events, even of she is, the majority of the time we don't being her along anyway.
I'm sure I will get some backlash here but like a PP said, others didn't choose to have your children, you did, so I don't see why they are expected to plan or change their plans around what suits others or is kid friendly.
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16-07-2014 08:21 #97
16-07-2014 08:22 #98
No.. Some family events certainly.
But in all honesty, I would much prefer going to things like weddings, funerals without them. And in cases like that, I would get the DH to stay home and baby sit them and go alone. Which no one minds, it works for us.
16-07-2014 08:40 #99
I thought I'd add it was my brother's 30th recently. He has no kids and none of his friends have kids, they're all big drinkers and love a long late party - which is totally fair enough... they're "young" (he's my older brother haha but he's young lol)
So, his birthday fell on a Sunday, so he invited us around with the kids on the Sunday that was his actual birthday for a roast lunch - and his birthday party was the following weekend, which we were going to go to but my mum got sick so couldn't baby sit.
My kids don't need to go to a ****-up for their uncles birthday and I don't expect my brother to moderate how he and his friends celebrate just for us, so lunch on another day was a perfect compromise.
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16-07-2014 10:36 #100
We just did the same for DH - I had invited his friends and sisters to a fine dining restaurant in the city for his birthday last weekend - we definitely didn't want out kid there and everyone else also wanted a child free night but the next day I had all the family and kids over for coffee and cake so everyone had fun!
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