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14-07-2014 21:06 #191
14-07-2014 21:30 #192
I get that lots of people LOVE kids at weddings and I totally and utterly respect that... But do you all respect that some people would prefer their weddings child free ... ? Or is it your way or the hi way and nothing but your way acceptable. Different folks different strokes... Seriously everyone IS different. There is more than one way to skin a cat.. Kids or no kids.. Yes I believe it's their choice. Have a billion kids (and a hot pink wedding dress) at your own wedding for all I care but no one should dictate to the bride and groom what they should do on their wedding day... Feel hurt yeah sure.. I can understand that. You sil does sound a bit self absorbed and a PIA but who cares .. Let it go then move on. No need to kick up a stink. At the end of the day you can't change others, only yourself and your responses.
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14-07-2014 21:44 #193Senior Member
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If this was a thread about a MIL who was trying to dictate to a hubber what he/she should do, the replies would be full of righteous indignation. "How dare your MIL try to tell you how you should do x, y, or z, when it's against your parenting philiosophy!" Yet for some reason, it's okay to try and tell the bride and groom that they should invite kids, against their wishes.
There is obviously a lot more going on in this family dynamic than just this wedding. But the bride and groom (yes, both of them) have made a decision about how they would like their day, and their decision should be respected. If that means the OP can't attend because she can't go without her kids, then that's sad, but it's the way it is. It's not okay to use other family issues to justify trying to make them succumb to other people's wishes for THEIR wedding.
14-07-2014 21:49 #194
OP I highly doubt there's going to be anything you could say or do to change your brothers mind. He's getting married to this women regardless of what you, your mum or dad think of her. If your brother can't stand up to his soon to be wife then that's his issue! let him live his life. I've gone through exactly the same thing with my brother. I came to the conclusion that it just wasn't worth my time or energy! I was bashing my head against a brick wall. My advise is let it go and concentrate on your family, your daughters and your husband. All the best x
14-07-2014 22:18 #195Senior Member
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I think there are a couple of different things going on here, one is the OP's situation which sounds very hurtful and unfair and runs I think much deeper and is more complicated than the wedding.
The other is the the question of kids at weddings and TBH there's a fair bit of judgey going on as to what's normal, odd, rude, wrong etc...people have questioned a families closeness and I think that's off!
Different strokes for different folks people. Don't get it? Don't have to. Your way isn't superior and neither is mine. Both are great. Just different.
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15-07-2014 05:13 #196
OP, I'm another who thinks you overreacted. You said you don't see your brother very often, so are you sure it's not just that he doesn't have a relationship with your kids, but does with the 8yo he might see all the time??
We weren't invited to close family weddings last year. It hurt, but we don't see them very often so of course we weren't going to be high on their invite lost. But I admit it took me a while to get to that place.
It's their wedding. They can invite who they want. I know I did with mine. As you would have done with yours.
15-07-2014 06:35 #197
I had this happen to us for my brother.... we
Went to the reception... not the wedding. My kids could have slept in a pram but , was their wish for no kids .....as
is our wish not to have left them . Every one knew why we didn't attend. Even sent a message of congrats to be read at the wedding.
15-07-2014 07:30 #198
I posted early on in the thread and have read along at the comments. . Which sometimes are hurtful to the OP and others who do weddings a different way to others. I think it's important to realise here that the OP had stated that they were all invited and then uninvited. To say she's selfish and overreacting is ridiculous. Can you imagine being invited to a wedding ... A family wedding and then part of your family uninviting you? Added to that she has said that they've moved interstate so travel is a big deal to get the wedding. The bride was also a bridesmaid for her not to long ago. Plus the bride and groom are godparents to the uninvited kids. So yep... There are other issues going on.
I know this an Internet forum and people can make assumptions or say things without much recourse. So to continue pushing a point about the OP being selfish etc when it's plain to see she's feeling hurt and betrayed is a bit mean to be honest. Of course everyone is entitled to opinions here but to insinuate that her children aren't well behaved or something. . Gosh. That's a bit much.
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15-07-2014 08:57 #199Senior Member
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I never said this was for everyone having kids at weddings I was like everyone else on here putting my views and experiences across and this has just reminded me again why I very rarely comment on this here as people turn nasty very quickly when people have views different to them selves.
OP I hope you sort things out with your brother and it works out in the end for you and your family
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