I get the bigger picture thing but sometimes you need to be selfish, love yourself enough to put yourself and your own needs first. Most of us only get one wedding and it's up there as one of the days you'll remember forever. You can't always live your life to make others happy...
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14-07-2014 09:39 #111
Last edited by RipperRita; 14-07-2014 at 09:41.
14-07-2014 09:39 #112
As mentioned earlier... Have the wedding without an audience/ guests if it's all about the bride and groom and 'their special day'. If you don't want to accommodate your guests then what's the point of having them there?
If they want a child free wedding, fair enough, but they should be fully aware that this places limitations on you and your family and you may not be able to attend. I think I'd rather have children in attendance than not have my closest family members there. JMO.
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14-07-2014 09:42 #113
We had a child free ceremony and wedding breakfast (only 38 people invited) but then invited children (and other guests including friends etc) to the evening reception (there was an extra buffet). There were a couple of people who didn't come because of it but that was their choice and it didn't upset me, I knew that was the risk with having no children.
14-07-2014 09:51 #114
My thoughts are only my thoughts and are in no way a one size fits all. But all things being equal the way some weddings are organised makes me glad most of my friends didn't bother.
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14-07-2014 09:52 #115
There are people invited to the wedding which they have nothing to do with and have been invited purely to keep the peace. Example: My step sister and her boyfriend are invited. My brother does not speak to either of them and the bride cannot stand her. Yet I guess if they were not invited then it wouldn't be very likely my dad and step-mum would be willing to hand over the $$$ the bride to be is expecting from them.
So no, it is not always an honour to be invited to a wedding.
14-07-2014 09:56 #116
14-07-2014 09:57 #117Senior Member
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When my mum asked my brother why his response was "I just want *** to have a nice day".
This. He wants his wife to have a nice day. If that to them means no kids under the age of 8 then its their call. He has chosen this girl to be his wife. He doesn't need your approval or permission. I can understand why you are upset but to not talk to him again seems a bit childish, what do you want to do, stamp your feet and then your kids get invited? Its their day, not yours
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14-07-2014 09:57 #118
It reminds me of the Sun King, some people had the honor of watching him pee or have this breakfast or else
To me a wedding is about celebrating life and love, surrounded by friends and family that you love and that you need in your life.
I felt so blessed to have so many beautiful people at my wedding, to see all their happy faces sharing the love, knowing that they had taken so much time choosing an outfit and preparing songs/talks/videos about us, so much money in attending our big day...
This thread just blows my mind. I had no idea some people could be so vain about their big day.
Because you get married you get to become a self focused person for a year? It's all about me-me-me?
I have never heard about a child free wedding irl though - only on BH land.
@thepouts I believe you might be too soft on your brother. To me he is the one responsible for the way his family is mistreated.
He choses his bride, he choses to put her needs ahead of his family, he choses to not come to Christmas, Easter etc.
He chose not to put his foot down. It's easier to be angry with her as she is not family. She is the intruder and openly nasty too. But I believe it would be more productive so to speak to be curious with her and to call your brother out on his ****ty behavior.
eg. Why isn't he coming for Christmas? His fiancé don't want to? Big deal, last time I checked they are still two separate persons/bodies and he should still come and spend time with his family
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14-07-2014 09:58 #119
14-07-2014 10:00 #120
Haven't read the previous posts just replying to op. I would be gutted if one of my siblings did the same, my sister had a semi kid free wedding in that family was invited and friends kids weren't, made much more sense as the whole family was there so who was going to baby sit? I personally don't like kid free weddings or anything to that affect, generally i would find a baby sitter anyway but to be told I can't bring my kids really gets my goat so I wouldn't go.
I hope you can come to some kind of arrangement with your brother. Hugs.
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