I'm currently applying for graduate jobs (yay, my degree is finally almost done!). 10 years ago I did a highly sought after internship in a big firm. It's my last paid employment and highly relevant to my degree but all the people I worked with have long since moved on. One of my supervisors was my cousin but we haven't seen each other in years as she now lives overseas. I'm thinking of emailing her and asking her to be a referee for me.
As kids/teens we were best friends, and I know she'll do almost anything for family so I'm sure she'd say yes. But I feel awkward about it since it was so long ago. She's very well respected and senior in this field. What do you think? My only other referees are from the volunteering I've done at my kids school. I need all the help I can get with getting back into the workforce so I'm thinking I should just ask, but I feel uncomfortable about it as we haven't spoken in so long and so it feels rude to ask.
What do people do after a long gap out of the workforce in relation to referees?
I used to be really quite good at the whole application/interview process but I've been out of it all for so long I've lost my confidence.
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12-07-2014 20:33 #1
Do I or don't I? Job application question
12-07-2014 20:43 #2
you arent asking her to lie for you - just to be a referee about work you did do.
(explain to her that its your only relevant work experience so that is why you are wanting something so long ago ... and that you are aware its not exactly current)
and good luck
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12-07-2014 20:53 #3
I would do it
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12-07-2014 21:00 #4
Thank you. I want to ask and I think I would be foolish not to as I am desperate to return to work. I was held back by worrying I'm just using her and it's so long ago it's embarrassing that it's my most recent 'job'. I guess I'm looking for confirmation it's okay to ask, so thank you.
12-07-2014 21:06 #5
Good luck I would also do it, plus it would be nice to get in touch again I'm sure
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13-07-2014 08:26 #6
Ask her for sure! If you were close a long time ago she'd probably love to hear from you
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13-07-2014 19:39 #7
Def ask See if she will provide a written reference for you?
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13-07-2014 19:46 #8
DO it 100%.
Goid luck &missmuppet !!!!!
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13-07-2014 20:11 #9
Thank you everyone! I feel much better about it now. This job process is daunting but exciting too.
22-07-2014 13:00 #10
Well, I asked her and she was more than happy to help and very excited for me. In the end I didn't need the reference though because before I could get her details to include on an application I was offered a different job I'd applied for!
Thanks for the words of encouragement!
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