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    My fiancé and I have been TTC#1 for 19months to no avail. We are now seeing a fertility specialist who has put me on Clomid 50mg, and we are at CD24 of our first round. I had my 21 day blood test done sat, and FS practice manager rang yesterday to double check I had it done as results didn't download on their morning run off yesterday. They were chasing it up but yet to hear back from them. FS is out of the office today so even if they did find them I won't get results till tomorrow. 😔 Would appear to be a pathology issue, not my FS.
    I see FS next Thurs, which is 6 weeks since I first saw her. Can anyone explain roughly what might happen on a second consult and how often you see your FS?
    We live 2hrs from where my FS is. When I first saw her, she wasn't too positive that Clomid would work for me and more may need to be done, but wanted to give it a go anyway. She did mention something about a laparoscopy?
    Feeling very overwhelmed by it all and the last few days I have been quite teary and a few unnecessary fights with my partner due to us both being upset and stressed by it all. (His first sperm test went walkabout, and now a blood test seems to have been lost) I'm 30 and my fiancé 31. Just feeling like things are out of my control a little I guess. Does anyone have any tips on how to manage going through this?
    Sorry for all the questions. Just hoping someone can help me feel a little more relaxed and informed about it all.

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    TTC is such a hard journey

    Firstly - dont stress about your ages. Your ages are perfectly fine and you have plenty of time still

    Secondly - clomid plays havoc with your emotions. Feeling teary, argumentative and cranky, and getting all emotional are reactions to the clomid (it doesnt change anything, but knowing that it is a physical reaction to the drugs might make it easier for your partner to understand)

    As for your FS - different specialists do things differently. Some want to see you all the time, others dont. Hopefully yours might want to see you a bit less often being you are so far away.

    Clomid works by regulating your cycle and basically assisting your body do its natural ovulation thing. Its not a follicle stimulating hormone itself .. it just helps your overall cycle. Its basically a 'first stop' for many unexplained fertility issues, and many FS's will give it a try before doing any intrusive investigations (such as a lap)

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    I just wanted to come in and reinforce what KatiesMum has said about your ages - I'm 40 and pregnant with my first child. At 30 you still have plenty of time.

    DH and I only got married in our mid-30s and TTC for quite a while then. Despite us both physically being fine, it didn't happen for us when we wanted it to. And it was not an easy thing to go through, so I really understand where you're at. We didn't want to move on to the next stage with the FS and so just stopped trying (we needed a break from all the let down and upset each cycle) and built a life as a couple.

    Sometimes I think it helps if you take away that pressure off yourselves. Stress hormones wreak havoc on your body, combine that with fertility drugs and emotionally it's pretty rough for you and your partner.

    There are other options to consider, which you might want to research. What got us over the line in the end was DH giving up gluten. After a year of him being GF, me eating less gluten because of our shared meals and both of us making much healthier food choices, I fell pregnant.

    What I'm trying to say is there are other things to try to give you a bit more a sense of control. There's lots of alternate therapies out there that people absolutely swear by if you want to think about a different path than traditional medicine, or use both in conjunction.

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    Thanks ladies.
    I know we're not 'old' as such, but we tried to do the right thing and wait till we were set up and stable in life before trying. Now we both kinda wish we'd started sooner and the 'what if' questions pop up in your head.
    I don't mind the trip to the FS. I chose her because I'm not a fan of any type of dr and needed to be comfortable with whoever I chose. She's FS, obs & gyno in one so I can go the whole way through with her. My parents live there so when we get to the point of birthing I will stay with them when the time gets close 😊
    Hopefully I'll get my 21day results tomorrow and things have improved.

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    My only advice/ tip is that you will, in all likelihood, get your baby at the end of your journey - however long that may be. In some ways starting IVF was more relaxing than 'ad hoc' TTC for me - the beginning of seeing a FS etc is quite daunting and mistakes with the bloodwork etc add to the stress. It will all seem inconsequential though when you have your bubba - it just takes some of us longer than others.

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    We've been ttc for 3 years and have all but given up. I did 9 cycles of clomid non consecutively before we knew DH has male factor infertility and it's a really hard drug to stay on. Week long headaches, balling over every little thing, and not just during the cd 2-6 phase but the entire cycle. Cramps and painful ovulation.

    Your 2nd visit will probably involve where you go from here based on your bloods/tests etc. It may involve another few months of clomid, or IUI/IVF. You are still young, don't stress.

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    Hugs xx I get you about the age thing, I was 28 when we started ttc & am now 32 with my ivf baby finally. I felt as if all the waiting for testing, clomid cycles etc was my biological clock ticking! I would suggest seeing the counsellor at your clinic & making plans to look forward to eg: holidays. I also found exercise esp. Running helped me decompress during all the fertility stuff. I also live a few hours from my clinic & if you do end up doing IUI or ivf see if you can take a couple of weeks off work to cover the scans, bloods, procedures so you don't have to stress about having days off at short notice. Good luck.

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    Huge hugs I understand how you are feeling. While it's true that you have time on your side, I never found that thought very helpful.

    I started ttc when I was 29 and finally held my baby 2 months before I turned 38. It really is a marathon, not a sprint. Be prepared for things to take time. However long it takes, it is so worth it.

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    Thanks @DJ Nette. So hard and trying at times but we won't give up 😊
    I'm CD28 today and have a very strong feeling this isn't our month. FS this coming Thursday for second appt. see what she says but I think she had plans to take things to the next step


 

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