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    Quote Originally Posted by mumat View Post
    I wasn't talking about the kids that sleep through naturally @redlipsandpearls, on their own, its the threads I see sometimes that ask -
    "How/when can I get my baby to sleep through?" That and the obsession to control sleep/naps/feeds..
    I know my baby will only wake 1-2 times on average to feed if I follow our nap/feed/bedtime routine. If I'm loose with it (like I was yesterday) then I end up getting up every two hours. So yeah, I am a bit obsessed with his routine because I know he sleeps better, which means I get more sleep, if I do. I don't expect him to not wake at his age but if I know some things I do through the day help him go longer stretches at night then damn straight I'll be a bit obsessed about it. Sleep deprivation is a major trigger for depression in me, as it is for others, which is why some of us are obsessed with routine or ask for advice, or just hope, on how we can get our babies to sleep longer. It doesn't mean we are also not listening to what our babies need as well.

    If you read my other threads I'm very open to trying to go with the flow during developmental phases and trying to tell myself that 1-3 wakings is normal and that I do not let him cry. But in general a routine definitely helps us.
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    Quote Originally Posted by mumat View Post
    I wasn't talking about the kids that sleep through naturally @redlipsandpearls, on their own, its the threads I see sometimes that ask -
    "How/when can I get my baby to sleep through?" That and the obsession to control sleep/naps/feeds..
    I have had both of my girls in a routine early on and it benefits all of us; they end up getting more sleep so they can grow and develop, I get unbroken sleep so that I am functioning to my optimum and can work out what they need better than when there's no routine. What's so disturbing about that?

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    Quote Originally Posted by redlipsandpearls View Post
    I have had both of my girls in a routine early on and it benefits all of us; they end up getting more sleep so they can grow and develop, I get unbroken sleep so that I am functioning to my optimum and can work out what they need better than when there's no routine. What's so disturbing about that?
    I understand where mumat is coming from and I think it all comes down to different people's experiences.

    I know with my first, I was under the impression that infants sleeping through at 8-12 weeks was normal and something that had to occur! I tried everything to get my baby to achieve this holy grail and that contributed massively to my PND. When she was about eight months a friend lent me a pinky McKay book and I sobbed with relief. I was not a failure and neither was my baby - it was a freaking revelation!

    So, while your circumstances and experiences may be different ( and of course valid and working beautifully for your family) for some mothers it is an absolute godsend to hear that it is biologically normal for babies to not sleep for 12 uninterrupted hours overnight.

    Anyway, in answer to the OP, two of mine slept through at 18 months and one was 2.

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    Quote Originally Posted by misskittyfantastico View Post
    I understand where mumat is coming from and I think it all comes down to different people's experiences.

    I know with my first, I was under the impression that infants sleeping through at 8-12 weeks was normal and something that had to occur! I tried everything to get my baby to achieve this holy grail and that contributed massively to my PND. When she was about eight months a friend lent me a pinky McKay book and I sobbed with relief. I was not a failure and neither was my baby - it was a freaking revelation!

    So, while your circumstances and experiences may be different ( and of course valid and working beautifully for your family) for some mothers it is an absolute godsend to hear that it is biologically normal for babies to not sleep for 12 uninterrupted hours overnight.

    Anyway, in answer to the OP, two of mine slept through at 18 months and one was 2.
    Oh definitely, I don't think anyone should be making people believe that all babies sleep through, but I also don't think anyone should be saying that routine and encouraging sleeping through are disturbing.

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    My kids had a routine, (they found their own rhythm that suited dh & I) that we encouraged/followed.

    Again - I'm talking about when it is thrust, almost forced, on the baby to do it - and the despair and fallout for the mother left reeling/not coping if it all falls apart and not knowing that she's completely, utterly normal. xox

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    Quote Originally Posted by redlipsandpearls View Post
    Oh definitely, I don't think anyone should be making people believe that all babies sleep through, but I also don't think anyone should be saying that routine and encouraging sleeping through are disturbing.
    I guess disturbing isn't the best word but I do find western societies preoccupation with sleeping through interesting.

    At the end of the day though, you have to be true to yourself and do what's best for your family, not everyone's going to agree with you but bugger them!

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    Quote Originally Posted by redlipsandpearls View Post
    I have had both of my girls in a routine early on and it benefits all of us; they end up getting more sleep so they can grow and develop, I get unbroken sleep so that I am functioning to my optimum and can work out what they need better than when there's no routine. What's so disturbing about that?
    You can still have routine and not have babies sleep through.

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    Quote Originally Posted by BigRedV View Post
    You can still have routine and not have babies sleep through.
    Like me . But I'm hoping that eventually I will reap the rewards!

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    My little girl has slept through (9pm to 7am) since 3 weeks old.
    She would have done it earlier but we had to wake her to feed every 4 hours because she had a touch of jaundice
    We sort of have a routine but let her lead the way
    She is a very content baby and will always go down awake- some nights I will fall asleep before her!
    We count ourselves extremely lucky.

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    I'm amazed (and very jealous!!) of all these sleeping babies! DH and I do not make sleepers :-)


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