I am a go with flow parent on most things.
My kids under the age of 3 sleep when they are tired. No schedule as such. They sleep anywhere and everywhere.
Over 3 and you get a bed time. Starting at 7 pm. I am strict on bed time. We don't go out on weeknights (sun to thurs) unless it a special occasion (very rare). Weekends and holidays we are strict if we are home but if we are out we don't worry so much. We aren't people that go out at night much so let them enjoy it when we do.
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09-07-2014 13:14 #111
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09-07-2014 13:16 #112
she's the one who misses out then isn't she. I often will wake DD or have her sleep in the pram when she's younger, but not at nearly 2.5. She wont sleep in the car ir pram any more.
Family or friend bday party, absolutely we work something out, but if i muss mums group every now and then because of it - that's my loss but Id hate to be written off completely by my mums group if some things I cant go to.
09-07-2014 13:22 #113
My first 3 where between 6-8 weeks. Would go down at 6pm feed at 10pm and sleep till 6-7am.
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09-07-2014 15:02 #116
That's a bummer AP and VP that your toddlers aren't napping so much. I dread when my two stop sleeping as I still nap on all my home days.
wifey of hubby who is always away. mother of two girls who are always amusing.
09-07-2014 15:03 #117
I'm the highly strung mum who has to be home for naps. Around 7 weeks DS stopped sleeping in his pram and will only sleep in his dark, quiet room. I didn't make him that way, he chose it. I continued to try to be out for coffee dates, catchups, errands, etc and make him sleep in the pram because people made comments that he'll get used to it, I'm creating a rod for my back, or because I just wanted to stay out and be social and EVERY time I regretted it as I tried to rush home with an over-tired, screaming baby in my arms while I pushed the pram. So yeah, now, as often as possible, I make sure I'm home and if people want to catch up I let them know the times I can and if it works out that's great, if not then oh well. I'm not going to make my baby unhappy, and like Stretched said, make my night harder than it already is, for everyone else.
I know that both baby and I are happier if a routine is followed and my attitude is that our life won't be this restricted forever, he's only little for a short time.
Why can't it be that we're all doing what's best for ourselves and our particular babies rather than critical sounding comments regarding keeping your baby up or needing to follow a routine?
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09-07-2014 15:25 #118Junior Member
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My boy is 20months old and still isn't the best night sleeper. We're at the stage now where 90% of the time he will wake up once around 3am (bed time anywhere from 7-8) then back down till somewhere between 5-7. Some nights he can wake up 2-3times.
09-07-2014 15:40 #119
@HollyGolightly81 there's nothing wrong with anything you've said. I'm actually not sure anyone is wildly disagreeing with anyone else - they are simply explaining what does (and doesn't) work for them. My world revolved around DD1's sleep patterns as well when she was little, and even around DD2, but with DS1 and DD3 they have to (largely) fit in around what's happening in our family. Eg this morning we all went out and DD3 was incredibly tired but the others were having a great time with their cousins who they never see so I stretched her out for another hour. She wanted to be held but was otherwise fine.
I very much go along with what Anewme does. There's a basic frame around our day and nights but it has to be flexible. Maybe my kids would be better sleepers if they were singletons but they're not so I guess I'll never know.
09-07-2014 15:42 #120
This is me too! Just as people say this too shall pass with regard to regular night waking or bed sharing, I see the same for day routines and not going on family trips etc.
I can see how they can work for some parents and not others, but also how they work for some babies and not others.
I think too that many of us have come a long way in changing our language to show we can identify our differences and be okay with them, but others times there's still a lot of judgement.
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