I can definitely relate, particularly for my last child, dd4. I was quite sad at her first birthday and again at her second just last week, because I know she is definitely the last 'baby' for us and her entering toddler-hood just made me feel like it's an end to an era sort of thing, so made me a bit. As for breastfeeding, I think it's because it can make you feel a little 'redundant' and that they're getting more self-sufficient that it makes you feel that way when it's coming to an end, and also the closeness that is attributed to it.
So yeah, I can relate, I don't think what you're feeling is silly, as goodness knows the years fly by so fast.
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25-06-2014 10:00 #11
25-06-2014 10:22 #12
I too can relate - I have felt a pang of sadness when both my boys have turned 1. I also feel a little sad when they grow out of each size of baby clothes, like they are never ever going to be that tiny again. Particularly with DS2, who has just grown so quick, I also felt a little sadness amongst the proud, happy feelings when he started crawling and walking - it was just more reminders that he is growing too quick! What you're feeling is normal, so let yourself feel it. As for the bf'ing, if you plan on having a set cut-off date/ last feed, perhaps you could take a special pic of the 3 of you on that last feed as a little reminder.
25-06-2014 10:39 #13
You are not silly at all. Sorry you are feeling that way. If it's any consolation, I had no idea how "babyish" kids can remain after turning 1- and that's totally normal. For example, my 5 year old son still sometimes needs cuddling to sleep when he is scared or sick or just because he wants to- and when he was turning 1 I never thought he would still need the kind of care that he sometimes needs at 5- I assumed he would be way more grown up and independent than kids actually are. Just trying to say that what is precious about babyhood can pop up at many other moments in childhood and its very nice and surprising.
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25-06-2014 13:35 #15Senior Member
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Thank you SO much for your replies. It has really reassured me that I'm not the only who is a bit 'past' focused as this milestone approaches. I look forward to what is to come of course but I'll let myself be a little sad too.
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25-06-2014 14:17 #16
hi nat2561, I can understand this, but I didn't have the feelings with my twins. my first born, I was just happy with every milestone, and not anxious or worried about him growing too fast. then with my girls, I was like hurry up, hurry up and get out of nappies, hurry up and start walking, hurry up and get past this stage. then with my last baby, I was telling him to slow down. you don't have to be sitting up now, slow down you don't need so many teeth. slow down you don't need to be moving. he walked at nine months, and I cried. all perfectly normal as far as I can say. hugs, Marie.
25-06-2014 14:57 #17
Our DD is our only and we cannot have another child....being extremely sentimental - im always a bit sad at all kinds of things!... knowing its the only time I will experience something makes everything special and im sad when things change even though im also excited that shes on to the next thing. I even shed a few tears when she stopped wearing nappies!
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