I could also cry reading your post Waggers. My daughter is similar to your son at times and is also a terrible sleeper. It's a special hell.
I agree with everybody that has said to get him into more daycare, you need to recharge and step back out of the chaos of it all, as others have said he will be safe and cared for, if he is awful in the evening, you and your partner could tag team each other. At least you would have been able to recharge while he was away, at the moment you are clearly in the eye of the storm.
I'm so heartened that posters that have been through a similar time have been quick to offer their understanding and support, you are not alone or a horrible person, the parenting gig is a hard slog, throw in no sleep for nearly two years and challenging behaviour from your lad, it's no wonder things have come to a head.
You are heading in the right direction going to the doctors today, honestly arrange more daycare and get yourself well, things will improve, heck if you have to, go back to work full time for the break.
You will come out the other side of this, you will!
I remember you from the sleep thread too and you are an older mum like me.
Keep posting, you know the ladies will have your back every step of the way xxxx
+ Reply to Thread
Results 31 to 40 of 83
19-06-2014 09:02 #31
19-06-2014 09:04 #32
Firstly great big hugs . I know I would be the same if I had a difficult child . I don't cope well at all .
Up your daycare days
Get a Referal to Ellen Barron http://www.health.qld.gov.au/ellenbarronfamilycentre/
They will be able to help a lot .
How's his diet ?
Good luck !! Post here any time there's always people to listen .
19-06-2014 09:40 #33
I will be thinking of you today Waggers and hope that something can get started for you sooner rather than later.
19-06-2014 09:45 #34
Reading along and just want to add my support. The ladies have given some excellent advice, especially regarding child care. Am thinking of you today. Small steps x
19-06-2014 10:55 #35
Just wanted to offer my support too Waggers. I hope you get some positive support from your GP today.
Also, I think the suggestion of more days at daycare is a really good one. I know you have concerns that DS's behaviour might get worse in the evenings, but on the flip side he may get better (or at least stay the same) but in the meantime you get some time to try and recharge and work out a way forward. If you do put him in day care for 5 days p/w, you don't have to keep him there long term if you don't want to, but it would be great to do so until you are well again and the reassess what is best for DS.
All the very best.
19-06-2014 11:10 #36
I hope your GP offers some help, and things calm down soon.
19-06-2014 13:32 #37
Been to the doctor - DS is unwell with a flu and has a fever so she wants to focus on getting him physically well first and is then planning on referring him for paediatric behaviour assessment. As for me I'm to have a few days off work and go back next week to organize some more counseling. Unfortunately she is a pro CIO type and wants me to leave DS alone in his own room at night for 2 weeks. I will not do this - I think most of you know that I'm a no-cry type, even though I may end up going round the bend. So as usual I feel like its small steps all too slowly to really make a difference in the short term. I feel that doctors like to drag things a little in the hope that time cures. In the medical world there's a saying that 80% of your patients will get better no matter what you do, 10% will die no matter what you do and 10% actually need your help. I don't think my doctor feels I fit into that last 10%.
So far today has been a little easier than yesterday.
19-06-2014 13:52 #38-
- Join Date
- Apr 2012
Wags it may seem like not much was accomplished today.. But it was. Your GP wants you to see a pediatrician and counsellor .... This is a step in the right direction. They are specialists (unlike the GP!). I'm sure things will start to look up from there. Just make sure you go back to your GP next week and push for those referrals.
The Following User Says Thank You to VicPark For This Useful Post:
19-06-2014 14:00 #39
Do you have an option to see another GP? Honestly that sounds like a whole lot of sucky advice!
If she wants him referred for assessment, why doesn't she write you the referral since it could take a long time to get an appointment and he'll be over the flu by then?
Did she look at changing your meds/dose?
Could she not refer you to a sleep school? And to suggest CIO when your child is sick - eeeek!
Looks like there will be lots of baby nurofen/panadol happening in your house for a few days! We've just come out the other side of fever/poor sleep/eating out of whack (DS ended up just having 5-6 bottles a day to keep him happy earlier this week, he just didn't want to eat!) Make sure you come here as much as you need to cope as a sick baby on top of everything else just sucks!
19-06-2014 14:04 #40
@Waggers70 I've been quietly reading along and just wanted to say that I agree with the fantastic advice that the other lovely ladies have offered.
Also I could not read this thread and not say, I have always had a soft spot for you, you are one of my favourites on bubhub and I've definitely always noticed you and always read your posts, I was very saddened to see your OP.
Just wanted to send you big virtual hugs and strength.
Transition into Parenthood / Calmbirth SydneyJulie's Transition into Parenthood and Calmbirth courses for pregnant couples will get you ready, prepared and ...
FORUMS - chatting now ...
Considering a terminationShould we have another baby?
April/May TTC group chatConception & Fertility General Chat
IVF/FET April & May chatConception & Fertility General Chat
Having a tough time with the dad... Does it get any easier?Pregnancy & Birth General Chat
Things your pets have eaten and shouldn't haveGeneral Parenting Tips, Advice & Chat
what method do you use to track your financesFamily Finances
The Not So Serious Vent Thread #7General Chat