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    Default Mother baby unit help.

    I went down hill with my anxiety and ocd last week and was referred to a mother baby unit. They just called and have a bed for tomorrow. I can't take my toddler just my newborn. I'm heartbroken I can't stop crying. I know I don't have to go but I can't see things improving quickly here. I don't know what to do.

    Has anyone had any experiences

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    You need to put yourself first . Your toddler needs you to get better too and he/she will be ok without for this time . Good luck xxx

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    You poor thing. Who do you have that can look after your toddler while you are in the unit?
    If you've been referred, please do take the bed, you obviously need to be properly supported until you are stronger.

    Take care.

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    I'm no doctor, but I imagine that if leaving your toddler is going to make you really anxious, then it's probably not going to help your anxiety levels at all? Maybe you need someone who will come to you, rather than going there? I'm not sure. If your toddler will be in capable hands of someone who you trust, then I'm sure it will be ok.

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    I went with my baby when she was 6 months old and had to leave my 20 month old ds at home with dh for 2 weeks (visiting on weekends). It was the first time I had ever left him and I too was heartbroken but it was the best thing I ever did and was the beginning of my recovery. Plz pm me if you need any support.xx

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    I don't have a toddler, but I watched other mothers with a toddler and a newbie and they found that they really missed their toddler, especially at first. However, they did get better, which enabled them to be better mothers to both children.

    Good luck, your toddler can see that you are struggling and they need you to get better. Healthy Mother = Healthy Baby = Healthy Family :-) Sending you lots of support and love :-)

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    Another option is a mental health day program.

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    I have been to my local MBU 3 times in the first 14 months of DDs life. I had massive problems with depression and anxiety and all three of those visits were extremely beneficial.

    I really recommend you give it a go. Your toddler will be fine, you and your baby will benefit. You need to invest in yourself right now, it will really help I promise!


 

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