OK where to start...1st of al I have pcos/insulin resistant & left tube nearly fully blocked & DH has low perm count. We have 3 gorgeous children 5, 3 next month & 3mth old. Ive always wanted 4 kids since I can remember &DH has always said 3 but soon as wehad#2 he said no more but i still wanted more so after a lot of crying & telling him why I wanted another & nagging & telling him just one more, he finally said we can have another..through out my last pregnancy I was prepare it was going to be my last but since having my #3 I still feel that feeling I jut cant explain the feeling I want my 4th baby. DH ants the snip but he has said he wont be doing anything for another 6mths so if it happens then its natures way of saying we should have had another b the thing is with the other 3 i have had to use metformin & clomid so m a little worried may not get my the in the next 6mhs.
it took 20mths to get preg with #1, 10mths #2 19mths #3.
How could I convince DH again if it doesn't happen In the next 6mths?
I really really want my 4th & final bub.
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16-06-2014 13:57 #1
Wanting another bub
16-06-2014 14:50 #2
To be honest, I'm not sure convincing him is the right way to go about it? I would hate to be pressured into having a child I didn't want. Maybe you should work on feeling content with 3?
please don't feel that I am discarding your dreams of a fourth, I think it would be very difficult to disagree with your other half on number of children But, I also think the 'no' answer just has to win out in cases like these, as much as it sucks for the other party.
16-06-2014 15:30 #3
I agree with the previous poster.
If you've already convinced him to have one more than he originally wanted you may have a very difficult time to have another one. I think it's worth considering what damage pressure from you might do to your relationship with your DH, and what's more important - the relationship or a fourth child. By forcing him to have a fourth child that he doesn't want you're discarding his wishes. His wishes are no more or less important than yours, it's just that you've already convinced him to have one more than he wanted. I just have to wonder if going down that path again will put a strain on your relationship.
I know a couple who have three kids. He only wanted two, she wanted three. When he wouldn't agree she went behind his back to get her third. It was a betrayal of trust and, while they're still together, that is not a happy relationship.
16-06-2014 15:38 #4
Agree with the others. While I totally get that feeling of not being done, he has already agreed to a third child he didn't initially want. You say you nagged and pushed for that baby.
I think you need to meet him half way. He wanted 2. You want 4. You have 3 currently. I know it will be hard to accept but you may risk alienating him by pressuring him again.
16-06-2014 15:41 #5
If he really doesn't want another bub he would stand his ground by saying no & I will respect that for sure...there is no way I would ever go behind his back just to have another bub that's why im not going back to my gyno to get the fertility tablets that's just not fair & not right.
I am greatfull for the 3 beautiful kids we have & if it doesn't happen in the next 6mths & I cant change his mind again then that will be it but I still have to have faith & hope that I will happen.
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