I can understand why some people would feel sad. My sister and I both married and have girls and we won't ne carrying the name down on, not down dads line anyway. But dad was one of 8 boys so the family name will certainly be carrying on (breed like rabbits is a phrase that comes to mind about some of my family....shame I missed that fertility gene). If there was a chance that our family name (which I really do hold dear: it is off a massive, loud family, a lot of fun times, my remarkable grandma who was wise and loving and strong and capable) ran the risk of dying out I would certainly feel a sense of loss. I suppose it is important to me but that doesn't mean it is necessarily important to others.
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13-06-2014 23:53 #31
13-06-2014 23:59 #32
Passing a name down through generations isn't important to me. It's nice thinking my family genes might be continued though.
14-06-2014 07:05 #33
I HATED my mothers maiden name which thankfully didn't get passed on to some poor sod.
There are some pretty awful surnames out there!
Eg longbottom, Hitler, fatfannyasspants
14-06-2014 07:16 #34
I know someone that is like that. I was commenting from my own experience. It was extremely sad to see a dad and grandma reject this child because it was a girl.
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14-06-2014 07:22 #35
14-06-2014 07:26 #36
Some family friends of ours lost much of their family in the reign of Khomeini and now there are only 5 families of that name left in the world. So my mothers friend's husband agreed to let the children retain their mothers maiden name.
I know family lineage is very important to some people.
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14-06-2014 07:27 #37
My son will carry on the family name as he has my last name. If and when i get married i dont plan on changing my name as i want the same last name as kiddo.
Not really all that important to me but i know it is to my dad
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14-06-2014 08:03 #38
I think 'carrying on the family name' is one of the things that oppresses women. It makes people desire a boy over a girl. No offense meant to the OP as I realise you are just asking a question and a lot of people do think like that.
But why cant girls carry on a family name? I know loads of women who kept their surname after marriage and the kids can have a combined surname if they choose.
14-06-2014 08:20 #39
My mothers maiden name stops with her and my aunt (who never had children) and when my grandfather was talking about it awhile ago he said "if I open up the phone book there are pages of us in there, the surname is being carried on by lots of other people!" so he wasn't at all worried. My friend is having a baby and is insisting on giving her child a hyphenated surname. So the fathers name and her name (which happens to be her mothers maiden name) because she is the last person to have her mothers maiden name. When I asked her why it was so important to pass on her mothers maiden name especially seeing as though she's having a baby girl (so there is a strong likelyhood she will get married and take her husbands name anyway) she couldn't really give me a reason, other than it was important to her. So I don't think there is always a logical reason, more just a feeling.
14-06-2014 08:34 #40
It's unlikely my family name will be carried on. DS and I have DH's surname and my brother is unlikely to ever have children.
I think it makes my dad a tiny bit sad, but I doubt it's something he thinks about much. He's not the type to let things out of his control bother him.
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