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    Quote Originally Posted by BettyW View Post
    You don't know both sides of the story so it's completely inappropriate to use your power as an adult to enforce your child's side. A parent should never approach another child on school grounds to reprimand them based on one set of information.

    (If you saw a child doing something obviously unsafe then yes, intervene in the moment.)
    100% this. It is a form if intimidation to approach another child. Set up meetings with the school, principal if need be. As an AP at a primary school, parents approaching other children on school grounds to "reprimand" them is not only ill advised but can lead to schools issuing trespass orders to not enter a school ground. There are processes and procedures to deal with behavioural issues, I advise people to use these processes. Imagine if another adult approached your child like this, it's completely inappropriate regardless of the urge to protect and stand up for your child.

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    To the people who are saying they would approach the child on school grounds other people are right.. you are setting yourself up for 1. being banned from school grounds and 2. police action being taken. If it's a non-public school you are also setting yourself up from having your child kicked out of the school although I'm sure you'd get a warning first. Also, what happens if the other parent is a psycho? You approach their child and in turn they approach yours and go off their nut? No way would I be doing anything like that. Approaching the child is never the answer. You need to go down other avenues. I'd suggest talking to the mother.. you have her number because of the invitation.. or even just go to the party and talk to her while you're there? See what happens and go from there.

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    I have a response... But I'm just going to refrain for the OP's sake. talk about ott!

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    Mums don't really go up to other people's primary school kids and tell them off do they ? Man I'm dreading DS starting school!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Elijahs Mum View Post
    Mums don't really go up to other people's primary school kids and tell them off do they ? Man I'm dreading DS starting school!
    As I said earlier, it happened to me in 2000, so not that long ago. That mum was insane though and also went to mutual friends' houses and told the parents that their daughters had to choose between me and her daughter... simply because I stood up to her bullying me.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Elijahs Mum View Post
    Mums don't really go up to other people's primary school kids and tell them off do they ? Man I'm dreading DS starting school!
    There's no accounting for people, anything is possible :/ But I don't think it would happen all that often, people tend to go to the teacher or principal in my experience.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Ellewood View Post
    I have a response... But I'm just going to refrain for the OP's sake. talk about ott!
    Thanks. I don't want this to descend into a fisticuffs lol (but then again this is the hub, I've seen some strange "debates" over the years)

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    Anyway, I had a long chat with dd6 tonight. I think dd6 has a better handle on it than I have her credit for, she thinks D is mean and bossy, and she doesn't want any part of the meanness. And she thinks she has two friends in the group that feel the same. She's quite close with both of them, and they will both be at the party, so I feel a WHOLE lot better than I did this morning.

    & @BettyW we talked about why she might be so controlling, and we'll talk about it more. I'm off to Google assertiveness for kids. It's something I struggled with as a kid and I'm determined my kids will fare better
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    Sorry, I didn't mean to throw a grenade into the thread.

    Just to clarify, mum wasn't on school grounds, but outside the school gate. Also, she had been a teacher previously and was a psychologist at the time, so would have known the right thing to say.

    Sorry if I offended - I just noticed that no-one had brought up direct conversation with the bully and wanted to add a different perspective. I hope things get better for your DD.


 

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