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08-06-2014 12:33 #71
08-06-2014 12:44 #72
I think the fact that so many of you were ignorant to this happening demonstrates how discreet the majority of it is.
Now you all need to go through your phones/computers and delete your browsing history in case your OH wonders why you are googling local beats!! :P
08-06-2014 13:19 #73
Well i tried googling but nothing came up. ??
I do know of one park tho and i don't take my kids there
I couldn't bear to think of my husband doing something like that.... Eeek
08-06-2014 13:34 #74
See, I find it really strange that people AREN'T aware of beats. To me it's like all the people who camp in their vans at our local beach carpark; the playground that turns into a teen hangout after dark and many other unintended uses of public spaces.
I certainly don't think it's ideal, but it's incredibly simplistic to say "well why don't they go elsewhere!?". Beats have been a part of gay culture for as long as gay culture has existed. I know of numerous beats in my city which were frequented at least a hundred years ago.
Sure, our culture has change. There are more socially acceptable places and spaces for same-sex hookups, but the fact that beats are still so popular says something significant.
ETA: Anonymity. No questions asked/no string attached sex. I think that's tied into the appeal. A hotel room requires some commitment. Even a car... you're moving into private space. Beats have always been mutually removed - public space, or somewhere that no participant is directly connected to.
Last edited by Renn; 08-06-2014 at 13:44.
08-06-2014 13:56 #75
The one that came up when I googled for my area specifically states "there is a playground nearby so be discreet and clean up after yourselves".
Well, that's thoughtful
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08-06-2014 13:57 #76
Like you said it's easy to say go elsewhere. But when you look at it from a different angle;
1-hotels cost money and would show up on a bank statement if providing a credit card as security. If you were spending hundreds a month and couldn't justify where it was going wouldn't this raise suspicions with your spouse. I wouldn't be parting with my $ every single time I wanted $ex.
2-let's face it, dtd in the car isn't easy (never enjoyed it myself).
3-you can't do it in a house if both are in relationships.
4-most public carparks are locked at night.
5-to those worried about sti's being shared, the gay community (yes I'm singling them out to prove a point) is VERY pro active about regular checks these days. You can contract something just as easy from having $ex with anyone.
6-they can't go out late at night and do it if they are partnered. This would also raise suspicion.
I don't condone it and I certainly don't think it's acceptable that it happens in such public places (still in about South Bank) but it does and when looking at it from another POV I can see why it still does when there are alternatives.
Like pp said, the fact so many of us were unaware goes to show how discreet it usual is.
Last edited by Ngaiz; 08-06-2014 at 14:00.
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