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    Quote Originally Posted by dee1 View Post
    What an interesting thread, I'm off to do some googling!
    Yes I must admit I went and googled my area upon reading the OP!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Mrs Tickle View Post
    What's fair about a beat? Seriously. Historically, beats were for men who did not identify themselves as gay and wanted to have sex with other men. This is still the case today so while some would find gay sex abhorrent, that doesn't mean they would actively discriminate against them. If you speak to people about their opinions of beats, as I have, a lot will say it's the venue and the dangers associated with the activity that disgusts them not whether the participants are gay or straight. TBH, the gay community by and large does not support beat culture.

    The discrimination thing is old hat. Modern society accommodates the gay community far more comprehensively now than it ever has and, in some cases to the detriment of other members of society. This is not to say they've never been discriminated against but in this day and age they have it good. Whereas if I want to breastfeed my baby at work I have to go to the toilet to do it. Wait a minute...I'm not allowed to have my baby at work and yet my colleagues can bring in their six year olds....

    Some posters have mentioned the moral factor and while I agree it's not something I would rally against as each to his/her own is my motto. But if it has the potential to hurt people then yes, it should be ferretted out and stomped on. Thankfully, Police seem to be doing this rather successfully in my area.
    Whilst you might find beat culture offensive or attempt to speak on behalf of the gay community, there is a certain prejudice that has come out (lol) in some of your posts and a few others in his thread.

    Beat culture is supported within the gay community, might not be something that you can understand however there are some people who find the anonymity important. Others in the gay community simply acknowledge it exists. There are a minority that engage in inappropriate behaviours but you will most likely find that they are shunned. If you are offended by beats then you might not want to google 'dogging'.

    Not quite sure what your perception is of your local police 'ferreting out and stomping on' people using beats. People can be at a beat, engage in certain acts providing it isn't publicly, there is no explicit power to search or move them on. There is even acknowledgements by the Gay and Lesbian Liaison Officers in relation to how beats are approached and what action is appropriate and what isn't. Might open your eyes to give them a call.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Que Sera View Post
    Whilst you might find beat culture offensive or attempt to speak on behalf of the gay community, there is a certain prejudice that has come out (lol) in some of your posts and a few others in his thread.

    Beat culture is supported within the gay community, might not be something that you can understand however there are some people who find the anonymity important. Others in the gay community simply acknowledge it exists. There are a minority that engage in inappropriate behaviours but you will most likely find that they are shunned. If you are offended by beats then you might not want to google 'dogging'.

    Not quite sure what your perception is of your local police 'ferreting out and stomping on' people using beats. People can be at a beat, engage in certain acts providing it isn't publicly, there is no explicit power to search or move them on. There is even acknowledgements by the Gay and Lesbian Liaison Officers in relation to how beats are approached and what action is appropriate and what isn't. Might open your eyes to give them a call.
    Agree wholeheartedly. PPs made references to feeling "sick" and "angry" without being able to explain why in real terms, hiding behind excuses such as "risks to the children", when in reality most admitted to not ever knowing about beats until reading this thread! Surely if something was so horribly prevalent and full of danger, we would be hearing a lot more about it in main****** media and other cultural references.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Mrs Tickle View Post

    The discrimination thing is old hat. Modern society accommodates the gay community far more comprehensively now than it ever has and, in some cases to the detriment of other members of society. This is not to say they've never been discriminated against but in this day and age they have it good. Whereas if I want to breastfeed my baby at work I have to go to the toilet to do it. Wait a minute...I'm not allowed to have my baby at work and yet my colleagues can bring in their six year olds....
    I haven't posted in this thread yet, just read along but I couldn't help when I read this....

    Come and live a day in my life and you will see just how much homosexuals are still discriminated against....you think that we 'have it good'? Think again...
    Don't get me wrong, I'm glad I live now and now years ago where is was worse but there is no detriment to other members of society.
    It's not pleasant being treated like less than a human being so often.
    And like a PP pointed out, not being allowed to marry. That hurts a lot...


    And my 2 cents on the OP.
    I didn't even know that beats existed! It would be nice if they had somewhere cleaner and safer to go but those kinds of places exist so rarely. I don't really see it as much of a difference than anyone else having sex in public. I'm not sure why it's different that it's planned rather than another couple doing it spontaneously? It's still sex in public.

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    Quote Originally Posted by HopefulK View Post
    Agree wholeheartedly. PPs made references to feeling "sick" and "angry" without being able to explain why in real terms, hiding behind excuses such as "risks to the children", when in reality most admitted to not ever knowing about beats until reading this thread! Surely if something was so horribly prevalent and full of danger, we would be hearing a lot more about it in main****** media and other cultural references.
    It's friggin disgusting to have knobs being polished and bodily fluids exchanged in cramped areas where innocent people, including children, are required to partially de-clothe in order to toilet themselves.
    - and don't try to tell me the desperate pervs who bang strangers next to where people take dumps are concerned about hygiene!

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    Quote Originally Posted by VicPark View Post
    It's friggin disgusting to have knobs being polished and bodily fluids exchanged in cramped areas where innocent people, including children, are required to partially de-clothe in order to toilet themselves.
    - and don't try to tell me the desperate pervs who bang strangers next to where people take dumps are concerned about hygiene!
    I agree it's yuck as I've said in a previous post, I just don't think it's as prevalent and such a massive " problem" as some are making out. And for me it's public sex in inappropriate place IN GENERAL that's an issue, not beats as such.

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    Quote Originally Posted by HopefulK View Post
    Agree wholeheartedly. PPs made references to feeling "sick" and "angry" without being able to explain why in real terms, hiding behind excuses such as "risks to the children", when in reality most admitted to not ever knowing about beats until reading this thread! Surely if something was so horribly prevalent and full of danger, we would be hearing a lot more about it in main****** media and other cultural references.
    After searching the beats in my area, it is prevalent. Most said there will be people there at least most days, if not everyday.

    Now that I'm aware of those areas, I can recall several times that I noticed, what would have been, people meeting up there.

    Dh & I are discreet in our own home because sex is not something our children (or anyone else) should be witnessing, so I think it's only fair that we could expect to go in public without the possibility of witnessing other people hooking up... planned or not.

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    Quote Originally Posted by KnockKnockPenny View Post
    And my 2 cents on the OP.
    I didn't even know that beats existed! It would be nice if they had somewhere cleaner and safer to go but those kinds of places exist so rarely. I don't really see it as much of a difference than anyone else having sex in public. I'm not sure why it's different that it's planned rather than another couple doing it spontaneously? It's still sex in public.
    The only difference is that these places are sought out and planned, meaning these people could have made more discreet plans.
    No one NEEDS to have sex, especially not in public.

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    Quote Originally Posted by redlipsandpearls View Post
    No one NEEDS to have sex, especially not in public.
    Now THAT, my friend, is a whole other thread...

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    This whole thread has been a major eye opener for me. I had absolutely no idea this sort of thing went on in public places.
    I actually find it really vile, and it's got nothing to do with it being man on man, I find the idea of public orgies in dirty public places abhorent. Just gross.

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