I am 21 weeks pregnant with a beautiful baby girl. I went for a routine check up this week and the hospital told me they couldn't find her heart beat. I am so heartbroken, I can't eat, sleep or think straight. I went for another scan just hoping a praying that they were wrong, but sadly she has passed. It doesn't feel real, I feel like I'm stuck in a nightmare and I just want someone to wake me up already. I went to talk to the doctor today, to tell me my options. I have decided to wait for labour to come on naturally, I don't know if this is the right choice. I don't want to be induced knowing that I could be waiting at the hospital for days on the labour ward with all the other mums having their beautiful healthy babies, when I know mine will never take her first breath. I have had 4 other pregnancy, I have 3 amazing happy healthy kids and I lost twins at 31 weeks in 2011. I have had c-section with all 4 pregnancy and have no idea what labour feels like, I'm scared and don't know what to expect. This time last week I was the happiest I had ever been, it took me nearly 3 years to know what true happiness felt like again after I lost the twins. I suffered server depression, anxiety and even attempted suicide. I had a gorgeous little girl in 2013, my pregnancy with her was very complicated and I found that I couldn't get excited about the pregnancy cause I was so scared of losing her after the twins. When I fell pregnant this time I was so excited, I was picturing our future, I was enjoying getting fat, I felt like I had so much to look forward to. I now feel like my world has been turned upside down again, i have so much heart ache in front of me, delivering the baby, making funeral arrangements. Feel like I'm back at square one, I have an amazing supportive partner,. Who I can't be thankful enough for. He supports all my decisions as he just wants me to be happy but I think he wishes that I chose to be induced. Any advice would be great
RIP my beautiful angel Ellie xxx
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03-06-2014 04:01 #1Junior Member
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Am I making the right decision? Miscarriage at 21 weeks :'(
03-06-2014 04:26 #2
No advice but big hug to you hun. I am so sorry for your loss xx
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03-06-2014 04:47 #3
Big, big hugs to you
I have no idea what that's like to go through and for you to have to go through it twice seems so utterly unfair.
How long will they let you wait for labour before your own health might be affected?
06-06-2014 01:11 #4
No advice but sending you hugs xxxx
06-06-2014 07:26 #5
I wish I had some advice for you but just wanted to let you know I'm thinking of you in this really difficult time. I'm so very sorry for your loss.
06-06-2014 07:56 #6
Hugs. Big. Giant. Hugs
10-07-2014 22:53 #7
I can't help but I also want to give u a big hug and sooo sorry for u and your family. Life can seriously be so unfair x
10-07-2014 23:36 #8Senior Member
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My heart breaks for you that you have to endure this again, I am so sorry for your loss
10-07-2014 23:41 #9
I am sooo sorry
11-07-2014 00:39 #10
I can't believe what you have been through. Big hugs xxx
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