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    Quote Originally Posted by 2BlueBirds View Post
    I agree Sonja.
    Agree with what? Sorry not sure which statement is correct or are you agreeing in general?

    I expect the outcome would be different.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Sonja View Post
    Agree with what? Sorry not sure which statement is correct or are you agreeing in general?

    I expect the outcome would be different.
    Just in general I'm thinking along the same lines.

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    I guess it depends on the circumstances. If my three year old told me they got wet/had an accident and a carer helped them change their clothes it wouldn't even register in my mind. It still wouldn't register, even if it was a male carer helping my daughter. I don't think anything of a female carer helping my son either.
    So without more information, it's a bit hard to say what will happen next. However, I am sure there are policies and protocols in place to deal with this kind of thing.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Party of Three View Post
    I guess it depends on the circumstances. If my three year old told me they got wet/had an accident and a carer helped them change their clothes it wouldn't even register in my mind. It still wouldn't register, even if it was a male carer helping my daughter. I don't think anything of a female carer helping my son either.
    So without more information, it's a bit hard to say what will happen next. However, I am sure there are policies and protocols in place to deal with this kind of thing.
    I agree I really loathe the assumption that male carers are looked at more suspiciously because they are male, but I come from a background where I have no reason to not trust a carer. There are many on this forum who do so I understand and respect that most centres limit the involvement of male carers around toileting, changing of girls so it doesn't become a nightmare for the centre trying to work out whether anything inappropriate occurred.

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    Do you know if there was anyone else around? Regardless of gender a carer shouldn't alone with a child out of sight.

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    It depends on how that parents want to handle it and who they report it to.

    I have worked at a centre where a 3yr old made a false claim against a female worker and police even got involved...

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    Quote Originally Posted by Lauzy View Post
    Do you know if there was anyone else around? Regardless of gender a carer shouldn't alone with a child out of sight.
    Apparently she mentioned another child's name. They were inside and the other female Carer was outside with other children. A third female Carer is always around too. I'm not sure who else was in the room.
    The room is open spaced with the outside area looking into the room and the door has a class window so you can see in from the foyer.

    I know she'll be going straight to the directors tomorrow morning.

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    I too get really upset by the suggestion that male carers should be considered with more suspicion than female carers. If the mother wouldn't think anything of her dad helping her change, why should this be any different?

    I actually worked in childcare for almost five years, and did have a false complaint made against me that I had inappropriately handled a child (his mum didn't like me and encouraged him to tell another carer than I had smacked him - something I would NEVER do).

    Even though my director and assistant knew it wasn't something I would do, it still had to be "investigated". Luckily they were able to track back that on the day it was supposed to have happened I had actually been subbing in another classroom. It could seriously have affected my future prospects if I hadn't had that proof on my side though - my blue card may have been revoked, which would mean I couldn't work with kids anymore and may have affected my parents' application to adopt my sister, whom they had in their care at the time on a foster basis. Police charges may also have followed, and I was in the midst of studying my law degree at the time - imagine having to declare that at my admission, knowing it was all untrue!

    I feel really bad for this guy if it's not true, but on the other hand if something seriously worrying actually did happen this can't just en pushed aside.

    I wish your friend all the best on deciding if something that bears reporting actually did happen, and dealing with the aftermath of that decision.

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    I feel really uncomfortable about parents who assume that a male carer shouldn't change knickers and things too but I do understand parents with a history of molestation are coming from a different place than me, very sad for the survivor and also sad for males that work in a traditionally female based environment. My son is studying to be a nurse and has just finished Prac in two old peoples homes and there were a couple of ladies that were uncomfortable with him helping them to shower etc, it's just one of those things he will have to face going into that field. It frightens me though that he would have to be quite careful to never have those sorts of accusations levelled at him.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Mokeybear View Post
    My son is studying to be a nurse and has just finished Prac in two old peoples home and there were a couple of ladies that were uncomfortable with him helping them to shower etc, it's just one of those things he will have to face going into that field. It frightens me though that he would have to be quite careful to never have those sorts of accusations leveled out him.
    That's a tricky one. My brother worked in community care helping elderly people in their own homes and caring for them and he became good friends with one old lady whose first words to him were "I've never let a man touch me and I'm not about to start now." She was incredibly feisty that one! He played lots of cards and drank cups of tea with her instead.

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