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    Default Procedure when a Childcare teacher may have been inappropriate

    This is regarding my centre, but not my child. Someone I know that their child also attends told me over the weekend that their 3.5yr old dd mentioned something that a male carer did.
    It was nothing that involved touching her Vagina or bottom.

    I don't want to say too on here, but it mainly involved removal of clothes.

    Obviously children can say things that don't make sense, and can end up being an innocent event (eg- playing dress ups, clothes being removed if child is feeling hot or food/drink spilt on them)


    So what happens when the director is notified and the Carer is questioned? How can sinister things really be proved?

    EDIT- She found out Friday night. Im not assuming she made it up at all. Just wording.
    She's seeing them first thing Monday morning.

    (If you've read my previous threads, it involves the same Carer I asked about)
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    I don't see why a 3 year old would make it up.
    This is very serious and your friend should have reported it straight away. How could she not have??
    I would always assume my child was telling the truth and if an investigation proves otherwise, well then I guess that's the best outcome, isn't it?
    I'd also wonder why a 3 year old would even be capable of making up a lie like that... why the subject would even be something they know about...

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    Kids don't make things up, but they can use the wrong wording. I've accident knocked DD over and she's told people I pushed her over. So it's true, but not like you think. She says he'd cousin but her. He did, but it was 6 months ago.... So I would be questing the child further with questions like was it an accident etc.

    However if you feel distrust about a carer I would go with it and change centres.

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    Quote Originally Posted by ~Marigold~ View Post
    I don't see why a 3 year old would make it up.
    This is very serious and your friend should have reported it straight away. How could she not have??
    I would always assume my child was telling the truth and if an investigation proves otherwise, well then I guess that's the best outcome, isn't it?
    I'd also wonder why a 3 year old would even be capable of making up a lie like that... why the subject would even be something they know about...

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    She found out Friday night.
    Im not assuming she made it up at all. Just wording.
    She's seeing them first thing Monday morning.

    My question / reason for this thread was, what happens next?
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    Quote Originally Posted by 2BlueBirds View Post
    She found out Friday night.
    Im not assuming she made it up at all. Just wording.
    She's seeing them first thing Monday morning.

    My question / reason for this thread was, what happens next?
    Ok I either read your OP wrong or you have now edited it, sorry I thought you said the 3 yo claimed the carer touched her inappropriately.


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    Quote Originally Posted by ~Marigold~ View Post
    Ok I either read your OP wrong or you have now edited it, sorry I thought you said the 3 yo claimed the carer touched her inappropriately.


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    Thats ok, I just added my last post in there under 'edit'.

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    In any case, I'm sure the centre will take it very seriously and investigate accordingly.
    I'm assuming they have trained specialists who know how to discuss the event with a young child to better establish what actually occurred.




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    OP would what have happened have been inappropriate if a female carer had been involved? Eg touching her vagina = wrong whoever does it; however helping her change her undies if she'd wet them is expected as part of the care but something I wouldn't want a male carer doing for a female 3 year old.

    Does this make sense? Just getting a gauge as to whether it's actually inappropriate no matter what circumstance or whether the carer was helping do something that perhaps he needs to realise parents may not be comfortable with.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Sonja View Post
    OP would what have happened have been inappropriate if a female carer had been involved? Eg touching her vagina = wrong whoever does it; however helping her change her undies if she'd wet them is expected as part of the care but something I wouldn't want a male carer doing for a female 3 year old.

    Does this make sense? Just getting a gauge as to whether it's actually inappropriate no matter what circumstance or whether the carer was helping do something that perhaps he needs to realise parents may not be comfortable with.
    I agree Sonja.


 

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