OP, I value education (I'm a teacher, so I jolly well should!) and this attitude will of course be evident to my children. My daughter is only in year 1, so not quite what you are after. I expect her to do her best and not be scared to make mistakes - to have a go - be it with academics, sport, or socially.
More than anything though, it is important that my children enjoy school and I hope to foster a lasting love of learning. I value this much more highly over quantifiable achievements such as grades. So at home I make sure she has the resources to pursue her own areas of interest as well as completing set homework tasks. We always spend time talking about what was fun at school today.
Of course, like any parent, my chest swells with pride that she's in the top reading group or when she gets a certificate, but it makes me so much happier when I catch her under the doona with a torch and a book because she just wants to keep reading.
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28-05-2014 17:22 #11
28-05-2014 17:43 #12
I expect my kids to try. I expect different things of each child.
High expectations on a child that doesn't have ability to for fill them can be soul crushing and cause more problems and cause a child not to want to learn.
If My dd1 got anything under a A, there was something wrong and I needed to looking into things.
IF my ds1 gets a C it is time to celebrate. And I do mean celebrate.
Dd2 is another A and b child.
Dd3 is a b and c child.
Ds2 we are still working out where he stands and when he is putting 100 % or not.
During yr 11 and 12 we took the attitude that dd need a fluffy subject. A subject she just took because she enjoyed. It was also the subject that if something had to give it was it.
I honestly believe no one can do 100 % everyday in every subject. That you do your best you can if you get a D or a A+ do sent really matter I will celebrate with you.
Not everyone will end up at uni and that's okay. I will help you be the best 'you' you can be.
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28-05-2014 18:13 #13
I've only got one in school, my expectations are not that high. It's her first year of school and I want her to enjoy it, not stress about anything.
28-05-2014 18:28 #14
Okay, DD does not have any learning disabilities. Maths seems to be the area she finds difficult. Her sister struggles with reading but Maths is her strong point.
She is student of the week this week for the extra work she has put into maths which is paying off. She is driven to improve her maths, may not help that she got teased this week for not knowing 8x8 by some of the girls in her class.
I expect her to do her best. I don't give rewards for school work or marks, I want her reward to be the achievement itself. Although I am planning on rewarding her maths mark in her report if she gets a C as we are expecting a D at best and I haven't been made aware how much her marks have improved just that they have. She has no idea about my plan though.
I don't expect her to go to university, although I think it would be great. I don't expect her to know what she wants to do for the rest of her life (I didn't) at the end of her schooling.
I guess at the moment (in year 4) my expectations are
- do your best in everything, even if you don't really like it at least try.
- do the set homework within the given timeframe, unless there is a really good reason that it is not done. I refuse to write her a letter excusing her, if she has been lazy. The 'punishment' for unfinished homework is her consequence.
- Ask for help if you are having trouble understanding something.
- Read daily, even if it is a comic.
- I expect her behaviour to be excellent.
- Have fun and be happy.
28-05-2014 18:39 #15
I'm a bit concerned that high expectations can lead to disappointment. Also, shouldn't kids learn because they want to, not because they're being paid to?
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28-05-2014 18:55 #16
I expect my ds#1 who is in year 4 to try his best. And he does, so i am happy.
If he was to fall behind significantly id get a tutor.
He's not a lazy child he does whats asked of him. We dont make homework a high priority tbh. He spends a considerable chunk of his life at school. Home time is to relax, have fun and be a kid.
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I'm of the opinion that life is full of disappointments and kids need to know how to handle those feelings.
As for other posters ideas on encouraging a love of learning, I also don't believe that children are necessarily intrinsically driven by a love of learning. Sure they are curious about things but that doesn't always translate to them automatically wanting to put in the hard yards (sometimes boring stuff) that they need in order to fully grasp a subject.
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