Big hugs. I've been in a very similar situation.
I started giving my DS a 'special box' for when I was getting bub to sleep. It has toys in it he really likes that only come out at baby sleep times to keep him quiet. Or I'd put on a DVD and give him a snack.
But yes he'd still come in at times wanting something and I'd often lose it too. It's very hard trying to manage it. He'd bang on the door and scream if I closed it. But he's really improved with time, baby is 9 months now.
For the days their naps didn't sync up I'd feel like crying, so tired.
DH and I would often argue about it all too.
If.you have anyone else to help give you a break for an hour, tomorrow if not today, then try to arrange something or do something for yourself when the kids are in bed, bubble bath, glass of wine, whatever you want.
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16-05-2014 12:43 #11
16-05-2014 12:48 #12
I'm so exhausted, I can't even think straight and I'm crying while typing this.
Both kids are awake now and I don't want to go for a walk, I'm too tired and too depressed plus I've been out today already.
16-05-2014 13:04 #13
So they did sleep? Were you able to rest?
I used to just go and sit under a tree in a park and let the older kids run around. Or sit on the beach. Staying home when I felt that way made it worse.
16-05-2014 13:10 #14
Sorry if I sound like such a grump and all over the place. I can't even think straight.
DH just rang and I just burst into tears again on the phone and now he's coming home. Now the baby is asleep but the toddler is still awake, now watching tv.
That's another thing I feel so guilty about he is watching far too much tv it's just so stressful because I can't get anything done and the baby can't sleep otherwise.
16-05-2014 13:14 #15
You need to do what you need to do to get through the day. TV, iPads, chocolate, rewards - do whatever it takes. Your kids will be fine.
16-05-2014 13:27 #16
16-05-2014 13:33 #17
I agree, don't stress about the tv, I had to use it a lot when my two were little as well. It kept us sane. If you're able, you can sit and watch with them, talk about what you watch and build some games around it. Or just use it as cuddle/rest/bonding time.
Now that my two are older, they're not that worried about watching tv, they can take it or leave it. They watch it when they need some down time eg when I'm getting dinner or if I need them to rest between outings. Often they will put on a show, but then switch off the tv and play a game they make up based on the show, or play something else entirely. I think because we watched it a lot when they were little, it's no novelty to them now they are older, so they can really take it or leave it.
The phase you are in now is probably the most demanding one of motherhood. So just do what you need to, to get you through to the end of the day
16-05-2014 13:53 #18Senior Member
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Just wanted to send a few big hugs your way, SAgirl. TV, and some kiddie DVD's. were a saviour for me when DS2 came along when DS1 was 17 months old. They were tough times!! I hope you have a good afternoon when hubby comes home. x
16-05-2014 14:01 #19
Thanks everyone. I've been feeling slightly better after my big cry I'm having a cup of tea while DS1 watches tv and DS2 is still sleeping... He finally fell asleep. Wish it was me.
Oh well. DH isn't home yet, still waiting.
16-05-2014 17:01 #20
Glad you're feeling a little better, I hope you get a decent rest tonight
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