My son is 12 he often rides to from school 5km each way and rides to mates house 1km away. He doesn't have a mobile but we have a "spare" that we insist he takes to text us that he arrives safely each way of every ride or walk.
We leave him home as and when he chooses and we have rules that differ to suit the situation.
It's only been this year we have felt comfortable with this. He is very responsible and trustworthy however I just wasn't ready to take any risks with his safety.
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27-04-2014 18:23 #11
27-04-2014 18:36 #12Senior Member
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DS is 9 and is able to stay home by himself if I have errands to run...usually no more than 1 hour.
We have a password that people must say if they want to come in, he is not to answer the door unless it is pre arranged.
He has me on IM at all times if he needs me.
He is not allowed to cook....I make sure he has a snack.
I contact my DH when I leave and when i get back.
He knows how to walk outside the house if there is a fire etc
He loves it
He is turning 10 in May...in the holidays after that we are going to give him $10 and let him go to the food court with his mate (also 10), order their lunch and then sit and eat and then come back to where we are going to be.
It is all about letting them learn in a safe environment and stretch their wings at a rate that works for them.
27-04-2014 18:43 #13
My eldest is 10 and I haven't left him at all yet, I think he'd be fine, he's very sensible, it just hasn't come up. Mind you, the thought of emergencies scare me a bit.
27-04-2014 18:50 #14
I have on occasion left my 11 & 8 year olds at home alone. Usually its for no more than 10 minutes while I drive dh to work etc. I'd never leave them for any more than 1/2 hour. They know not to answer the front door if they're home alone. They usually just play in their rooms or watch telly.
27-04-2014 20:14 #15
3 yr old dd has been left home alone since 18mths... she's very mature for her age ;-)
.....haha clearly not an issue for us yet but just wanted to add the first time I was left home alone I was 12 and it was for about 10 mins while mum ran to the shops. We had family friends over and they decided to leave while she was gone. ... I was sh!t scared lol I sat at the table the whole time not daring to move and nearly had a heart attack when our neighbor started hammering. I think anywhere from 12 upwards depending on how comfortable my child feels and even then only for a short period of time.
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27-04-2014 21:26 #16
My DD is 9 & I really don't know when I would feel comfortable. It is definitely something I struggle with.
27-04-2014 21:45 #17
Have left a sick dd on the couch watching TV at 6 to go get her little sister from school once. I rang ahead and organised a friend to wait at the gate with her, we also live on the same street as the school so was a very quick trip. I fretted the whole way.
Haven't needed to again and she is now almost 9.
27-04-2014 22:00 #18Senior Member
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Around 12 I started to leave my daughter alone while running errands - around an hour or so. She doesn't like being home alone so now at 14 still only an hour or so, my friends kids the same age will stay alone hours which is fine, just my kid doesn't like being alone and I respect that and would never make her.
28-04-2014 20:29 #19-
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Five, for short errands. (or was it 4? Started when he asked to stay home while I dropped older kid at school.) I trust him, and never had a problem.
I was walking to school in grade one. Kids are so mollycoddled now.
28-04-2014 20:32 #20
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