Maybe not as black and white as people think....
I have a friend who is married and both her and he hubby have agreed AND take part in an open relationship. So maybe its not an affair, maybe he and his wife have the same agreement. .. just a thought.
I just dont think you can say blank yes or no without knowing the details of the relationship.
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21-05-2014 00:45 #91Senior Member
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21-05-2014 05:20 #94
My Dad and Mum were married for 10yrs with 3 kids, it was then revealed that my dad was gay and had been having an affair with another married man. (Married 20yrs with 2 kids)
21-05-2014 06:03 #95
I just cannot understand how people think the other person (who is not in a committed relationship) is blameless?
Whether they know the wife/girlfriend or not! They played their part in the affair! If it were an emotional affair and the other woman had decent morals and said 'no' to the affair and a relationship and walked away, that husband would not have had the affair.
I'm not saying the husband is not at fault, not at all, he has a responsibility to his family and he said the vows, so yes, he's to blame but how can anyone not feel the other woman has no blame?
I'm so confused by this...
The 'i don't give a **** attitude' people have these days just doesn't sit well with me.
It's like a pp said about a stealing scenario... Just because you don't know the owner of the shop, does it mean if you steal from it you're not at fault?
21-05-2014 06:28 #96
If the husband chose to pursue someone outside of his marriage yes it's 100% on him. Putting some blame on the other person is shifting some of the responsibility away from the husband.
21-05-2014 06:42 #97
I would NEVER pursue a married man, ever. Especially if there were kids involved. My morals steer me well clear of that scenario. (Plus I'm married now myself and know it would break me if it happened to me)
Even if I did pursue a married man, and I found out it broke up his marriage, I would definitely feel guilty, I would expect the wife to hate me.
Do you think there is a difference in a persons opinion of this if they have been in this situation (perhaps being the wife who was cheated on) and wether the married couple chose to rebuild their relationship as opposed to breaking up?
Edit: Afterall, if you are staying in the relationship and trying to rebuild it, perhaps you would blame the other woman more, not necessarily to shift the blame but maybe to help find a reason as to why it happened and move on?
21-05-2014 07:05 #98
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21-05-2014 07:25 #99
Its not about purity either, that's an odd statement. It's a question of morals. Sorry I sound so markup but I think I'm just so tired if this selfish attitude going around this country lately, this stuff everyone else attitude that as long as I have no obligations to anyone else then let them suffer. I'm feeling a bit nihilistic lately.
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I would blame the hubby... It's his responsibility to remain faithful. At the same time I would judge the woman as being a morally bankrupt tart.
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