Stupid advice

[Ashram]

"Didn't you scrub your nipples with a toothbrush while pregnant"

An old midwife at the hospital when I had given birth to dd1. I was exhausted, in tears and having problems with extreme pain while breast feeding .

I just looked at her blankly and said "no , I didn't know I was supposed to" she then shook her head and glared at me and said "well that's why it's hurting" and stormed out of the room.

[bugsy]

MIL advised a tablespoon of sherry will help baby sleep, also a dummy dipped in honey. She used to keep a jar of honey next to the cot, to re-dip during the night for my DP! (He still has all his teeth,amazingly)

She was serious!
Also I was neglectful for bringing a new baby home without having emergency formula in the house.

[tubster]

Give my kids chocolate since he's not eating any real food.

[HarvestMoon]

Not me but my mother was told by her ob that she could smoke as much as she wanted whilst pregnant without doing harm, so long as she only smoked low tar cigarettes.
The scariest thing is she still believed this some 20+ years later.

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[~Marigold~]

In hospital, 2 hours after giving birth to DD, a midwife/nurse, whatever she was, snapped at me and abruptly told me I had to choose then and there whether or not I'd be formula feeding or breast feeding. Her exact words were, "you better make your mind up now because once you give her formula you can't go back to the breast".
I had had DD attached incorrectly (without realising it) from the second she was born which had resulted in bruised and bleeding nipples hours after her birth so I'd asked if I could call my hubby to bring in a bottle while I syringe expressed and had a rest.
I broke down and through angry and exhausted tears told her to back off.
Still hurts and angers me thinking of that, up until that moment I hadn't stopped smiling. Plus she looked about 18!

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[Mod-Nomsie]

When my boys were 7 months old I was sleep deprived and desperate. I took them to a family help type place that usually work with teen or indigenous mothers to work on mother craft type skills, but I went for help with their sleeping.
It was only a day stay, and it was terrible. I was told not to replace their socks if they fell off, (it was winter and minimal heating in there) that they couldn't have a lovey in the cot etc.

what really upset me was that at lunch she told me I need to eat my lunch while they sleep. I explained we did blw and they eat what I ate when I ate it. She told me it was new aged nonsense and that they need iron enriched foods because my bm didn't have iron in it any more. I told her that was incorrect and she got huffy with me.
Later in the day we were attempting to put the boys asleep yet again and part of her method was no eye contact. My boys were screaming, twisting and turning (probably feeling cold and unloved!) and she grabbed their taggie blankets (the loveys they weren't allowed to have ) and used it to cover their faces and said something like "covering their faces is ok when they're being as silly as these two"


And people wonder why I refuse to "sleep train" dd. this woman was nuts. And she was in charge of young impressionable mothers who had no basis to work from and would take we word as gospel? Scary.

[Atropos]

When my boys were 7 months old I was sleep deprived and desperate. I took them to a family help type place that usually work with teen or indigenous mothers to work on mother craft type skills, but I went for help with their sleeping.
It was only a day stay, and it was terrible. I was told not to replace their socks if they fell off, (it was winter and minimal heating in there) that they couldn't have a lovey in the cot etc.

what really upset me was that at lunch she told me I need to eat my lunch while they sleep. I explained we did blw and they eat what I ate when I ate it. She told me it was new aged nonsense and that they need iron enriched foods because my bm didn't have iron in it any more. I told her that was incorrect and she got huffy with me.
Later in the day we were attempting to put the boys asleep yet again and part of her method was no eye contact. My boys were screaming, twisting and turning (probably feeling cold and unloved!) and she grabbed their taggie blankets (the loveys they weren't allowed to have ) and used it to cover their faces and said something like "covering their faces is ok when they're being as silly as these two"


And people wonder why I refuse to "sleep train" dd. this woman was nuts. And she was in charge of young impressionable mothers who had no basis to work from and would take we word as gospel? Scary.

that's awful! What a bish!

[Atropos]

Most recently, I was told that bfing DD2 now that she has teeth is "taking my life in my hands" because you know, thousands die every year from breastfeeding kids with teeth, right? Oh...wait...

[SpecialPatrolGroup]

Most recently, I was told that bfing DD2 now that she has teeth is "taking my life in my hands" because you know, thousands die every year from breastfeeding kids with teeth, right? Oh...wait...

If the rhino I saw today can continue to feed her calf with a honkin' big horn rammed up into her belly, a set of baby teeth is pretty do-able.
(Eta, I bf'd for 20 months and was bitten plenty of times, I do know it is horribly painful. Not meaning to be dismissive of the pain people might experiencing)
I think I may have blocked out the absurd advice I was given.

[Atropos]

If the rhino I saw today can continue to feed her calf with a honkin' big horn rammed up into her belly, a set of baby teeth is pretty do-able.
(Eta, I bf'd for 20 months and was bitten plenty of times, I do know it is horribly painful. Not meaning to be dismissive of the pain people might experiencing)
I think I may have blocked out the absurd advice I was given.

Oh for sure, it hurts. We had a brief biting phase. Not nice. But not fatal