Due to an unfortunate turn of events I have found myself unexpectantly unemployed. A month ago I was working in a job I adored and had zero plans of leaving. I had recently enrolled 21 month old DD into daycare, to attend 2 days per week, five hours a day. She has been to 3 sessions- the first 2 went well, the third she was becoming unwell (had a bad bout of a gastro like virus) and obviously didn't enjoy that day.
Anyway, I'm stuck as to what to do now. I no longer "need" the service as I'm not working, but a part of me would like to leave her in for one day for a few hours, mainly for the social aspect. I myself have worked in childcare and like the structure it teaches (also exposing her to more of the world and people, learning different things etc) and think it will be beneficial for DD.. but then I have so much doubt as well- she's only so young, I could wait another year, she was becoming really upset at drop off last time and cried the whole time for me (I know it due to her being unwell, but still it wasn't a nice time for her) and then there's the whole getting sick in the first place (I'm sure she picked up the virus from there, I know I can't wrap her up in cotton wool, but still )...
So at the end of the day, I'm torn. She's only a baby for such a short time and before I know it she'll be off to kinder etc... but then again, four hours once a week isn't a big deal.
Anyone else experience this or place their kids into care for reasons other than work?
Or were you reluctant like me?
Any helpful advice would be appreciated, I keep changing my mind about this...
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19-04-2014 06:51 #1
Should I keep her in childcare?
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19-04-2014 07:07 #2
I think it's entirely up to you. On the social aspect though I'm not sure a few hours a week will really benefit her that much. They need more regularity to really benefit.... How old is she? I think if you want to stay home with her then you may as well. Sorry about your job! That's very unfortunate
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19-04-2014 07:19 #3
I was a SAHM as well but both my kids went to daycare 1-2 days a week from 2 yrs. I was suffering PND so probably a bit of a different story but I found they generally loved the interaction, activities and I was a better mother for the other 5 days I had them because I had regular breaks.
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19-04-2014 14:51 #4
I'm planning on taking long service leave soon and DS will definitely be staying in at least 2 days per week. My reasons for this are that he Ioves going, it's part of his routine and he thrives there. For us, daycare has done wonders for him and it's been an important part of his development., he would miss it if eg stopped going altogether.
19-04-2014 14:56 #5
Another thought marigold - building daycare immunity will be a whole lot easier if you're not working. DS getting sick in his first year and me having to work and manage that was a nightmare! If I hadn't been working it would have been so much easier.
Good luck and hope things went ok with work situation, I know you were anxious about it but I think it takes guts to do it!
19-04-2014 15:50 #6
Thanks. It's a tough decision as I want her to attend for the interaction but at the same I want her home with me!
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19-04-2014 16:10 #7
I can maybe offer a different point of view on this one. My parents both owned a business when I was a child. Before I started school they tried to put me in childcare for some of the time. I don't remember much, but I do remember throwing huge tantrums until everyone gave in to me and they called mum to come and get me. I remember one time hiding under the stairs and a little girl came in and spoke to me and I ended up playing with her and joining in with the rest of the activities and actually enjoying myself but I had learned that the moment I wanted to go home all I had to do was throw a tantrum. In hindsight I realise that all the social problems I had growing up (and still encounter today) was partly due to my lack of learning those important skills when I was young, instead I knew that mum would let me get away with almost anything I wanted. I think childcare is important for self confidence and social skills and personally I would like my child to go for at least one day a week just so she learns those skills. If not childcare than some other sort of social activities. That's just me though and I have formed these opinions based on experiences I have had in my life. I hope you work out what you would like to do, and I'm sorry to hear about your job.
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19-04-2014 16:13 #8
If you are happy to have her home and will take her to the park and other activities then keep her home if thats what your heart tells you to do.
My dd is only 16 months but she attends daycare, because our world revolves around her brother's and all of their therapy and special needs stuff, cause i needed some silence and some sanity and because she needs to be around some normal stuff and kids.
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19-04-2014 17:07 #9
Another point is you're going to need a break, even if it is to go to the bank or get a hair cut ( or have a nap) those few hours each week might also assist in having a refreshed mumma.
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19-04-2014 18:35 #10
I think if you can afford it, then keep her in for a day. 1 day a week gives you that day to yourself - because remember, us mum's don't usually get days off!
Also I feel just one day very well may be worth is as far as her learning and the social side. That combined with activities with you - sounds great to me!
DS has thrived in his childcare and he is in there 2 days a week, and 1 day with his grandparents. If a can afford it while on mat leave i will still send him for 1 day as i believe he will benefit greatly from it. Id rather save the money, but i more rather him socializing and learning.
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