Put the shoe on the other foot- would you ask/make him to do something he would be morally opposed to? AND would he do it?
If he knows how strongly you feel about this and insists you do it anyway that would be a certain deal breaker for me.
Is it something you can both compromise on? Like if he wants you to do xyz but you agree to only do xy?
Why is it so important to him? Why does it mean more to him than you and the kids?
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14-04-2014 12:04 #12Junior Member
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I know for sure that i will be having this conversation and im prepared for what ever comes including leaving.
It not financial, not about the money that issue would be very easy to resolve.
I can't really figure out why it is so important, i can only think he gets a kick out of it. Reasons i have been provided contradict everything else going on. The main one that he talks about a lot is that he believes im selfish and wants to know and see that i would have his back. (mind you the selfishness in our relationship is basically that when he says jump, i don't just do it or ask how high), but on some days he said he doesn't know why its so important to him, but it just is.
Took me a while to realise he had found my weakest spot and used it against me in this situation.
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If you don't want to do it, don't. Say no. If he calls you selfish, so what. Laugh at him. I know in a way I am simplifying things however I think in a way you are making the issue over complicated.
Best of luck with your plan to move on..
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14-04-2014 15:04 #15
I hop things work out for you and if you leave things go smoothly.
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14-04-2014 17:30 #17
I would find out more about whether its illegal and if it is and he keeps making you do it then that is definitely a big problem. Surely if he loves you he wouldn't be putting you or the kids at risk.
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