Need advice - is this even going to be possible?

[Louella]

It's definitely possible. I have two little ones (8months and 3.5years) and am in a similar situation, studying (distance) with a hubby that is away about 5 days and nights a week. It's hard sometimes, I have good days and not so good days but it is doable. I find not putting too much pressure on myself to be the key, there are days where the house gets neglected and I don't tick all the boxes and that's ok! All you can do is your best and all that stuff can wait. I wish you the very best with your studies


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[Jontu]

I am not speaking from experience so i hope you dont mind me answering. Could you postpone starting until after your second child is born and sleeping well through the night? Going from 1 to 2 is a big adjustment. There is always one child needing your attention and if you don't have a lot of support and your dh is fifo I think it will be really hard and you may be putting unnecessary pressure on yourself.
To keep your mind busy perhaps you could do some short courses, take up a hobby etc.
Of course it is completely your call and as pp have indicated very doable so whatever you decide I wish you all the best

[dee1]

I am the queen of overcommitting myself. Anything is possible if you want to do it. Time management and organization is the key! Best of luck!

[loveshack]

I went back to studying full time when my kids were 5 and 2, so the older one at school and the younger one at childcare. Just a suggestion, you might want to wait until your baby is born before starting your studies? You said bub number two is due in July, so that's just three months away.
Is it possible to start uni after you have bub in some kind of a routine, just so that the possibility of you stressing yourself out doesn't happen (especially the first 2-3 months due to lack of sleep)? That said, it all depends on how you feel about managing it all and whether your family thrives on routines, etc. Good luck with what you decide to do!

[LoCo]

Thanks all. So many great suggestions and not one negative comment unlike ppl IRL thank you ❤️

I will attempt study in July but they said if I find it to overwhelming to make sure I defer in the first 3 weeks at no charge.

If not I can attempt summer school surely new bub will be in a routine by then? Oh well have to wait and see.

[happygirll]

why dont you start and see how you go - you can always withdraw before the cutoff date if you get a few weeks in and decide you cant do it at the moment and it wont be added to your HECS (doesnt mean you wont down the track).

Routine is key, and finding times where you would normally read a magazine or watch TV, swap it for reading lecture notes! Good luck. Back yourself!

[netispaghetti]

I think it all comes down to your attitude...if you think you can do it you'll find the motivation to make it work. Easing yourself into it with one course first is a great idea...then you can reevaluate later and decide if it's something you can manage or drop the course before the census date.

Some advice would be to set realistic expectations on what you think you can achieve...so that you don't set yourself up for disappointment if you set your goals too high.

I'm doing a phd at the moment and have a 4 week old bub. Not getting any work done ATM but I decided it was best to do no work on my phd for the first 2 months, then ease myself back into it over the following 4 months until I go back full time in august. I face the challenge that I don't know what childcare I can get when I have to go back full time but I know that I'll just make it work and take what help I can get!

So go for it! It's a good thing to make sure you do something for yourself so that you are happy...your bubs will pick up on this vibe. Good luck and have fun!