If it continued to happen we would be in therapy & I'd try anything to make it work.
How could someone hurt you like that & love you = it's not about you, it's about them, you could be the best wife/girlfriend ever, and they could still get wrapped up in someone else/take you for granted/not consider the impact of their actions/have behavioural or mental problems, they're are many reasons.
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06-04-2014 14:56 #42
I can only speak about my relationship with DF.
Of course you can never say never but faithfulness is absolutely expected and assumed from both of us. I don't doubt for a moment that if I was unfaithful it would be over - and vice versa. But that is the sort of relationship we have. We are very blessed to be in a very loving, committed relationship. Although we have only been together for 10 years in that time we have never raised our voices at each other and have only gotten 'huffy' with each other a handful of times. I am still desperately in love with him and if I think about it too much I get overwhelmed with emotion when I think how much I love and adore him and how lucky I am to have him in my life and for him to be the father of my children. He feels the same way about me.
I think society needs to raise their expectations of blokes.
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06-04-2014 15:22 #43Senior Member
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06-04-2014 15:26 #44
Dp cheating on me would be a dealbreaker for me. I can say that with 100% certainty. My previous dp cheated on me the entire 6yrs we were together, and I only found out after we split, I was disgusted, heart broken and betrayed, so if I were to find out dp cheated is feel the same and I don't ever want to put up with that again. He knows it too.
Dp is fifo and there has never been one second that I've worried if he was faithful. I know in my heart he would never cheat, and he knows I wouldn't either. We have both been cheated on and we respect each other so wouldn't cheat.
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06-04-2014 15:27 #45
*Edited This article references 1/2.7 bit shady on my percentages today. I remember it from one of the library books I borrowed to make sense of it all when it first happened. Will find it and post it up.
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06-04-2014 15:28 #46
Ummmm.... I don't think its unrealistic??
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06-04-2014 15:37 #48
Another thing, DF had to fly to the US for 2 weeks earlier this year. In one skype conversation he told me he got hit on in a bar - but he was really excited and happy about it. I was happy for him too, it was a big ego boost for him. We laughed about it. He is the classic nerd, never confident at talking to women so he was really chuffed.
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06-04-2014 15:39 #49
I would laugh to. And Sometimes they are so oblivious to it.
DH gets hit on often and he really has no idea. I'm like "how's your new gf Honey?" After noticing it and he's like "what are you talking about?"
He's even had girls mums trying to set him up with their daughters!!
The other day he did a job for a lady and she was all like oh please let me set you up with my daughter!
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06-04-2014 15:42 #50
for me, no it's not unrealistic to expect my partner to be faithful.
i love him with everything i have. but i also love me just as much, enough to easily be alone for the end of my days if the other option meant to stay with a cheater.
grown adults should have 100% control over their actions, that might mean not allowing yourself to get so drunk you end up cheating, or ending the relationship before beginning a new one; emotional and or physical. i dont buy the 'i slipped up excuse' tbh there is not a good enough excuse for cheating.
people fall out of love, sure.. but that's no excuse to hurt and betray the person you once did love, especially when you haven't ended things with them.
husbandface knows that choosing to cheat would be the death of our relationship, if he willingly decided on that, i guess i'd be better off without him anyway.
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