these threads are interesting as people (mostly) say they could never be in a relationship with someone who was unfaithful or if they didn't trust them, yet so many men seem to stray. I dunno. After being a family lawyer for several years I guess I heard "I never suspected a thing" too many times.
I think if you are in a relationship that is respectful and meets the needs of each other at that time, or if it doesn't one party can empathise for the reasons why, then yes you should expect your partner to be faithful (if that is important to you).
However, if you treat your partner badly, or ignore your relationship, it might be too much to expect. I'm not excusing the behaviour; it's just what my experience has shown me.
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06-04-2014 12:55 #14
There is no way I could stay if I thought Dh would cheat.
We have been married 20 odd years. There has never even been a hint that he would. I am very blessed.
My first long term boyfriend cheated on me and was out in his *** immediately. Everything was put on the street for him to collect. No way was he ever going to cross my doorway again.
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06-04-2014 13:07 #17
That is sound thinking @Sonja. We have done marriage counseling since the event and meeting each others needs and listening and being kind and seeing the other's point of view is exactly what the counseling focused on- great if we'd done it before the whole thing turned to $hit!
06-04-2014 13:08 #18
06-04-2014 13:11 #19
Unfortunately I think it's easy to say what you think you would do if your partner cheated but until you are actually in the situation you can't really know for sure. I've always said cheating was a deal breaker and 4 months ago (when I was 8 months pregnant) I found out my DH had slept with another woman. I kicked him out but he is back home now and we are slowly working through our (major) issues. I can't say if it will all be ok but I feel I owe it to myself and my kids to try. It's not as black and white to say that's it - for me anyway.
06-04-2014 13:15 #20
I would love to see where you got your 60 % from.
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