OP, this man is not respecting you as a mother. I've been a fifo partner and a mother with a new born for a short time (with DP being away for 4 weeks at a tim) and yes they are working hard away, but you are also the sole carer for the children when they are away. 24/7 no nights off, plus you have to handle everything on the home front all alone. No one to help you carry the groceries in, no one to help when the kids are sick and so are you.
Working, as well as having young children while being a FIFO widow is bloody tough. If my partner had continued fifo, or goes back to it, i won't return to part time work while my DS is small.
That email was just disgusting, i would not be sticking around to put up with that.
You ARE working, you are raising the children. If he earn's plenty of money to keep the family afloat, there is no need for you to work while your youngest is small.
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Is there anyone here who thinks if the OP went back to work her hubby would step up and help out more? Because I can't see that happening.
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02-04-2014 21:26 #85
My hubby works FIFO and I stay at home with my 28 month old little girl. He has not once pressured me to go back.
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02-04-2014 21:39 #86Senior Member
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I haven't read all the other comments.
It does seem odd that he wants you to go back to work even though there is no real reason to. Is he FIFO? Do you think he could harbor resentment towards you because he has to go away and miss out on so much while you get to stay at home? Have you tried talking to him about the reasons as to why he wants you to go back to work.
If it's about the mil, perhaps you could let her look after the kids while you do some errands every now and again. That way you are keeping him happy, but not losing control of raising your kids. An hour here and there should be enough to keep them happy.
I'm sorry that he's being so blunt about it though, it's so unfair to call you lazy when you run the household with two kids by yourself! That's a full time job in itself!
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03-04-2014 06:06 #90
My dh appreciates my role as a sahm as much as I appreciate him going to work. We are a team and we both work damn hard.
The email is completely out of line and extremely hurtful. Hell let him pay for childcare, a cook, cleaner, someone to launder his clothing etc....the list goes on. See how much work his wife does then!
The ops hubby specifically called her lazy but ge is happy to pay the mil for looking after their children
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