I think a lot of posters are filling in a lot of blanks. Who knows what has been agreed in the past about the OP going back to work. Maybe they had agreed that she would go back when the baby was 12 months so he could take a lower paying job that didn't require him to work away? Maybe not.
But I agree with VicPark and RL&P that there's more to this. The email was wrong but I'm reserving my views on everything else.
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03-04-2014 09:35 #111
03-04-2014 09:37 #112
How are things today OP?
03-04-2014 09:42 #113
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03-04-2014 11:22 #115Member
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Ok so here's the run down.
I have worked previously, each job I had he had to approve of. I'm not allowed to work in a bar etc.
I am a qualified meat assessor( basically post mortem on animals)
Because I am not an Australia citizen I cannot work as this role because it's government sector.
I would need to get citizenship before I could make a decent income and guess who won't sponsor me for citizenship?
I have left before, child support was ok but he managed to guilt trip me in to paying less because he couldn't pay the mortgage apparently. And if he missed a payment we would lose the house and I would have nothing in settlement.
Ive decided to leave again. I have other emails that are worse. Including him telling me it's rude of me to visit my parents whilst he's at sea because we aren't doing it as a couple. He is trying to isolate me.
He he also takes the car off me when he doesn't get his own way and has it gps tracked.
Thing that is going to be hard is that I'm not entitled to parenting payments so I have to find a job anyway with or without him
03-04-2014 11:26 #116
My DP would prefer me at home with our babes until the youngest at least starts pre-kinder I'd love to work but would hate to miss out on our last babies firsts there's plenty more time for me to work later on
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03-04-2014 11:27 #117Member
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And no he has no intentions of changing his hours, he's hoping to do his masters ( company funded) so he can become captain. Which means more money. He is 3rd generation seaman and was a boiler maker welder before going to sea.
He he only wants me to work because he is simply a controlling manipulative asswipe.
I sent my girlfriend who isn't in our circle of friends the email that he sent which was worse than the one I posted earlier.
her reply was it sounds like he has someone else and trying to make me leave so he doesn't look like a coward.
now I know there's no one else that's just the way he treats women! Chauvinistic pig
03-04-2014 11:45 #118
03-04-2014 11:55 #119
*I quoted the wrong post, it was your previous one**
03-04-2014 11:57 #120
Can you make a plan to leave.
Do you have access to money while he is away? Are you able to set a little aside each week so you have a bit of a buffer to get set up with.
Is there another family member or friend that would sponsor you for citizenship
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