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    Default Who organises your partners birthday cake/dinner?

    Okay, I'm 39 wks pregnant so possiblya little hormonal and overacting . But I'm just wanting to know who organises your partners birthday cake/ dinner?

    I went out and bought a cake for DH only to be told his sister had already done it and dinner was at his mums when I was going to get fresh seafood and fish n chips at our place. I'm feeling annoyed that they didn't include me in the plans. And to top it off his sister gave him his present before I have him mine.... I bought him a webber BBQ and she bought accessories for it, so I guess now the big box at the front door is gonna be no surprise.... Oh and I bought him a massive gift pack with beer & nibbles and dad mug etc from DD and baby to be and she bought him a beer gift pack too after she knew I bought mine on Friday! I feel like their trying to compete with me

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    I think they should have spoken to you so everyone was on the same page.Just for another perspective though, maybe they thought they were helping you out because your due date is so close.

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    They probably thought they were being helpful, but still they should have let you know what they were doing.
    I'd be pretty p*ssed about the presents though, especially when they knew what you had bought.

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    If it's just happened this year than I'd say they probably thought they were being helpful with you being so close to you due date but if it's an ongoing issue and happening every year I'd be more inclined to think they were being a bit controlling and selfish. You definitely should have been included in the conversation/planning though.

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    No way! you are his wife she has his own little family so you are in charge! my MIL did this Once before I told her no he has a little family and its important for our DD to make/buy a cake etc! we organize dinner or coffee and cake if you want to you need to run it by me first!

    So id be ****ed too, Id be telling her ( if it hasn't happened already) sorry but ive already organized his birthday as its important for Us a family to set our own traditions etc! which it is, they can do whatever the want to after his birthday but ON his birthday its your family that comes first and makes the decision, not his sister without asking if it suited you and the fact that you are 39 weeks- I didn't want to do anything when that heavily pregnant,
    If they wanted to be helpful and organize it so you didn't have to I think they still would have asked you if it was ok but they didn't- which is rude so I don't know if its a honest mistake ( but that's just me)

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    That would annoy me a bit too! They could have been doing it to be helpful but I guess they should touch base first x

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    To be honest, I would've been really annoyed too you poor thing !! I think it should be up to you to organise things & if they wanted too then they should've ran it past you first.

    Next time, make sure u get in super early & tell them what ur plans are. I wouldn't be eager to tell them what u're getting present wise next year.

    Good luck

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    Very rude of them not to speak to you about it. If they wanted to be helpful than letting you know and sorting it out together seems to be the obvious option to me.

    For my hubbys bday MIL asks me if i have anything planned or if i need help etc

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    I'm going to go with the thought that they were trying to help cos you are so pregnant and that maybe it's their regular family thing.

    We are on the flip side here- I always make everyone's birthday cake. I'm not trying to upset ppl but I always have for the last 15yrs. Last year when my brothers fiance made one I was surprised. She got upset cos I made the cake, mum cooked his favourite dish and we all turned up to their place for dinner. That is our family tradition and mum would have been devastated if it didn't happen. At no point were we told that we couldn't do what we do every year.

    Whereas my DHs family just don't do birthdays so I find it sad that hos folks don't take an interest.


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