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16-03-2014 18:10 #61
16-03-2014 21:31 #62
He needs to learn (like some people in society have failed to do) that rules are in place for a reason and should be followed. I can at times understand the reasoning behind his poor decision making and understand he can be misunderstood but at the end of the day I'm not going to be the type of parent to bail him out based on a technicality of difference of opinion or because others get away with it. What kind lesson would that teach him? That if he sees others doing the wrong thing then he should too just so it's fair??
I've witnessed way too many children grow into criminals who had parents that felt the need to challenge every consequence rather than follow through and help teach their child a life lesson (real life case again people not a suggestion that BH members are doing that). I know I'm probably going on a tangent but surely we don't all think our children are completely innocent angels who can't be reprimanded?? Am I the only one who has a kid who I have to speak sternly with and give consequences to or encourage them to alter their actions for safety reasons?? I'm more than happy for him teacher to direct him and like it or not I can guarantee much more of my time is spent on behaviour management as a teacher than educating. I'd LOVE to just be an educator. I wish I didn't have to feel like a police officer during the day.
If my child broke a rule ANYWHERE I'd be talking them about it ... Even the 'no bringing your own food' into the cinema rule (which I hate) I still enforce it with him. The no diving in the pool rule in out complex pool (drives me bonkers upholding it cos it's all he wants to do and there's no one else in there but us but there is a sign which I point out to him), there's no harm in him doing it but I'd rather him be someone who follows rules and guidelines now as a youngster with the hope that he'll follow the law as an adult.
16-03-2014 22:08 #63
The bottom line is that the teacher doesn't set the rules. Yes she handled it badly. But so did the OP.
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17-03-2014 09:21 #64
If I wanted to challenge a rule and the teacher didn't want to discuss it/hear it, then I'd see the head/principal or bring it up at a p&c c meeting. If the school/other parents disagree I'd accept that but at least I would have a voice. As a parent, like I said earlier, I feel I have a right to be involved in my child's school experience and decision-making.
Did the OP suggest she defends every wrong action her child makes? I didn't read that anywhere.... I think it's pretty presumptuous to suggest that!
I don't know the OP but I'm sure she would agree her son should not be exempt from rules as he grows... Again, I didn't see any suggestion she thought otherwise.
20-03-2014 21:03 #65If my child broke a rule ANYWHERE I'd be talking them about it ... Even the 'no bringing your own food' into the cinema rule (which I hate) I still enforce it with him. The no diving in the pool rule in out complex pool (drives me bonkers upholding it cos it's all he wants to do and there's no one else in there but us but there is a sign which I point out to him), there's no harm in him doing it but I'd rather him be someone who follows rules and guidelines now as a youngster with the hope that he'll follow the law as an adult.
I absolutely do not teach my children blind adherence to rules, I teach them critical thinking instead.
I get them to think about why a certain rule is in place (eg no diving in the pool) and then they can decide to dive if there is no-one else around to be annoyed by it.
I believe blind adherence to rules is not a great thing at all.
My Mum raised us kids to be critical thinkers, and that the rules are there for a reason, but if the circumstances do not warrant it, then there is no point for the rule.
She raised us to have good strong morals and ethics, to genuinely care about others, but not to have blind faith in authority.
Thus my little motto 'Question those who do not question authority'
Think for yourself, see if something stands up against the test of logical thinking.
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20-03-2014 22:06 #66
Sorry ladies - it's not worth me replying ... My responses were coming from a different place than I am sure the OP was after.
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20-03-2014 22:21 #67
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20-03-2014 22:25 #68
I'll back out of here ladies so you can vent away without being challenged yourself
Note to self: don't respond to a thread about teachers on a parenting forum - it's akin to a vegetarian responding on a carnivore forum.
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