Although I am no longer a parent to an only child I have been for the last 9 years. Dh and I tried for for 8 years to have a second child. Our new baby boy is almost 7 weeks.
Our DD always asked for a sibling. She wanted someone to share her life with. Yes life was simpler with only dd but I do not regret persevering to have another child. We were told that IVF was our only option, but after losing 40kg, I have clomid a second go and now have a gorgeous little boy because of it.
How many children you have is a very personal choice. No one can tell you if one is right it wrong.
For me, I always felt like I wasn't done.
Now though, I feel completely finished.
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14-06-2014 16:16 #61
14-06-2014 16:39 #62
My DS just turned 7 yesterday. I would love another child but i dont think its gonna happen and i have so many things to look forward to, having another child(esp with a hige age gap for me) would hinder it.
If it happens, it happens and if it doesnt it doesnt. I am not fussed either way but i do yearn for another child one day esp now i am getting older and despite getting out there, havent been able to meet any one.
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17-06-2014 18:01 #63Senior Member
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I love reading these posts from happy only children! It's good to know we aren't condemning our only children to a life of loneliness. It just gets so annoying having to justify why you "only" have one child. No one asks someone with 2 children why "only" 2. I feel like telling people to p!ss off when they ask why dh and I haven't had a second baby yet. I got sick of telling the truth about why we have "only" one dd so now I reply with "o we are pretty content with one child" now I have to defend that reply too!
19-06-2014 08:14 #64
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19-06-2014 09:24 #65
I'm about to give birth to my first (38 weeks) and very likely only child and I am already getting people talking about the next one (which is very unlikely for us). I shut them down straight away now I have no shame lol
19-06-2014 09:38 #66
No pressure from grandparents on either side for us. I think my parents would be terrified if I fell pregnant again due to the complications I had with DS.
I get asked about having number 2 mostly by extended family, who I don't see too often anyway. I have several valid reasons for not having another baby!
I can only imagine it would be really hard to have people hounding you about having another when you are having trouble TTC.
19-06-2014 11:15 #67
19-06-2014 11:33 #68
It sure isnt! Some people have no idea though or because having babies was easy for them dont realise it isnt easy for all.
Sometimes I wonder if my mother and mil know how very little their opinion on this matter means to dh and I
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19-06-2014 11:58 #69
I'm an only child and we have one child.
Our daughter was conceived after a traumatic loss for me & we had just decided to take babies off the agenda. We were blessed with her!
I had a smooth pregnancy, 12hr labour which resulted in an early morning c-section and easy recovery so when we say we won't be having any more people are horrified.
I get comments from my extended family about our baby being a 'spoilt brat' and she needs someone to play with. Then I remind them who they are talking to and they still say oh but you are different LOL..
Randoms are always asking when the next one is coming and I just smile & walk away now.
I have never wished I had a sibling, never been lonely and loved being an only child. My mum was a young single mum who worked hard for what we had and made sure I wasn't a "spoilt brat". People are actually surprised that I'm an only child. I don't get that.
I love my own company and I love being social! I feel like I have the best of both worlds.
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19-06-2014 12:11 #70
Good luck with your upcoming birth
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