No one CHOOSES to be deeply affected by bullying. No one *wants* to be bullied so viciously that it becomes part of their depression. No one *lets* it affect them like this. This is akin to saying "I don't know why she let her skin bruise like that after they punched her". It's involuntary. Words can hurt us just as much as physical acts. They can cut so deeply. It's well and good to wonder why she didn't stop using twitter but why the hell should she? For every troll that harangued her there were messages of support and love too. Should she, or anyone, forgo this support and let the trolls win?
She had so much trauma in her life and struggled so hard- these Internet bullies were just one factor in a series of things that must have pushed her over the edge.
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23-02-2014 11:30 #41
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23-02-2014 11:31 #42
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23-02-2014 11:48 #43
It is easy to say walk away but in reality when it is everywhere, so in your face it would be hard to get away.
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23-02-2014 11:57 #44
Sorry I have to add something else to my last comment too.
If you are being told over and over that you are worthless, shouldnt be alive, etc, it slowly breaks down your self worth. Hear it long enough and you start to believe it. Even in a person in good mental health it has the potential to do a lot of damage.
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23-02-2014 12:18 #45
It's easy to say ignore it, switch off, block people etc.. but that can only be done after the bullying, after the the damage has already been done. Some people can't just "shake it off".
I have not been able to stop thinking about this poor woman. I can't believe it.
"Life Is Ours, We Live It Our Way".
23-02-2014 12:23 #46
Regarding the comment "why didn't she turn off her computer" (or what ever it was) can be a valid question in that there is absolute no judgement or liability placed on her for not doing so (the onus is still 100% with the people spewing such vile), just a curiosity as to why someone would actively read the horrible, toxic messages people left for her. I don't know if that's what happened (I didn't even know who she was, I had to google) so I don't know her story and am not pretending to. I can only assume that she did and in the interest of clarity - I am not suggesting any amount of judgement / blame / responsibility on her.
As a former mod who was involved in unveiling a number of trolls and highly dishonest posters, there are some real whackos out there.
23-02-2014 12:57 #47
"Life Is Ours, We Live It Our Way".
23-02-2014 17:01 #48
I hate the phrase, "Why didn't he/she *just* do/not do..." whatever it is people are talking about. It instantly attempts to simplify a very complicated issue, and it's just insensitive and showing a lack of compassion or empathy.
23-02-2014 17:42 #49
Nevertheless, it is a sad, tragic situation and I hope her family and friends take some comfort from the outpouring of public sympathy.
23-02-2014 18:06 #50Senior Member
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Charlotte was open about her history of body image issues and depression along with the abuse and other issues, which considering the industry she was in, made her pretty bl00dy brave to speak up about it. Yet from what I remember the worst of the trolls were adults, and attacked her on the very things she struggled with.
As a grown woman, being viciously told day after day by your peers that you should kill yourself, thank God you dont have kids, or that you are ugly and old, would destroy even the most confident woman.
How utterly heartbroken she must have been
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