We have always said that we would love a big family. We had our ds earlier this year after 2 years ttc with fertility treatment at 25.
Originally our cut off was the age of 30. We've now said 35, so we're giving ourselves 10 years to finish our family. We will be happy with however many babies we are blessed with in that time.
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25-08-2014 11:52 #41
25-08-2014 12:28 #42
I always wanted 4 or 5 kids but when DS3 came along he was so full on we decided 3 was enough.......then we were blessed with a surprise #4 and I am so glad he came along.
I was 25 when my first was born and 34 when my last came along.
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25-08-2014 12:41 #43
When you say Did I always plan to have a big family the answer would be no.
I grew up thinking I would never get married and have children. Not that I didn't like kids, I've always liked kids, but I've never thought very much of myself, and I didn't think anyone would ever want to marry me or have kids with me. I also don't think I ever thought I'd be any good at being a mum and being responsible for anything other than myself.
However, I had a very sudden turn around at around 26 years old. All of a sudden I was desperate to have children. Met, engaged, and married my DH, within a few years, and had my first at 28. We always planned on 2. Had our second 19 months later, and I wasn't done. Had our 3rd 22 months later. I still don't feel done, at all, but have to stop for a number of reasons (mostly financial). There is a chance of number 4 in a few years time, which will mean finishing our family when I'm 36.
I absolutely wish I could go back and realise how badly I wanted children earlier, 36 does feel old to me to be still completing my family, but that's just the way it turned out, and I'm not going to stop just because of my age
25-08-2014 13:06 #44Senior Member
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I didn't plan 4 kids, I planned on two. We started at almost 29 and then went back for number 2 and had number 2 & 3, it took 18 months to conceive. Then we had an oopsie - and I thought nothing of it on account of it taking 18 months of actively trying to fall pregnant with the twins. So that made number 4.
02-01-2015 11:49 #45
No I didn't plan a big family at all, actually wasn't real keen on having kids until I hit around 25 years old. Then met now DH, had my first babe at 27 and my second at 29 (I'm almost 31 now). I would love to have at least 2 more children though I do need decent gaps between babies to let my body recover (at least two years). I don't think I'd put an "age limit" on it really, having kids around makes me feel so young and I'm happy to chase around after them.
02-01-2015 11:56 #46
I wanted 4. I wanted to have them all before I turned 30.
After having DS1. It dropped to 2. After DS2. I think about a 3rd every other day. But then the 2 I have remind me another now would be a bad idea.
I am 30 now, and I am now thinking more about my chances with PCOS. And when would be the best time.
02-01-2015 12:10 #47
I don't know if I'm considered a big family with 3 kids but it feels large! No I didn't plan it, I only wanted 2 but I got pregnant with dd 3 months after I had ds2. I wasn't coping with the two we had and as much as I wanted a third we only planned on two. As hard as it is having a large family I wouldn't have it any other way. Dd might not have been planned but her birth and the weeks following inspired me to get help for pnd and become the mother I've always wanted to be. My life is turning around and It's because we have a big family if that makes sense. So no we didn't plan on having a bigger family but our little surprise was just what we needed even if It's harder. Now that we have had a taste of what It's like to have more kids than parents we are more open to planning a fourth one day a few years from now. We are only 26 so plenty of time
Eta: We had our first baby at 23
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02-01-2015 15:37 #48
My first bub was a complete surprise, i became a mum at 15. I met dh at 16, married at 20, and have had ds1 and 2, and pregnant with number 4 at 24. Dh and I always said we wanted 5, and dh keeps thinking that means 7, but I've also since told him that if I feel this is the last bub, then we're going to have to really consider stopping at 4. We have heaps of time to decide anyway.
02-01-2015 15:50 #49
02-01-2015 22:54 #50Senior Member
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We have 4, I was 25 when our first was born and 31 when number 4 was born. Our family is now complete.
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