Double question we had dd at 28 and I know I'm not going to be done with 2, deep down I want 4
So as title suggests- Did you plan a large family, and what age did you start?
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15-02-2014 13:05 #1
Did you plan a large family, and what age did you start?
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15-02-2014 13:27 #2
Dh and I both come from big families (I have 5 younger siblings and he has 4 younger siblings) and we always said we wanted 2 or 4 kids. We didn't think it would happen as before we met he was told by a dr he has a very low sperm count and it would be a miracle if he ever fathered a child. We also said no more kids once dh hit 30 (which he is this year).
We had our first dd when I was 18 and he was 23. She was a surprise- we had been ttc for almost a year and watched all of our friends fall pregnant. Eventually we said let's stop trying and just have fun and the next month I was pregnant. Fell pregnant again 8 months later but had a miscarriage at 10 weeks.
Fell pregnant with dd2 when dd1 was 2 years old. Dd2 was a complete surprise. I was 21 and dh was 25. He was still keen for more but I decided I was done. But I eventually changed my mind.
Dd3 was a planned baby although didn't expect to fall pregnant immediately. We fell pregnant with her on our wedding night lol. I was 23 and dh was 27.
We said no more after dd3. But neither of us truely felt done.
Dd4 is currently baking. I'm now 25 and dh is 29, 30 at the end of the year. Another planned Bub but again we werent expecting to fall pregnant immediately especially with dh working away so timing was never good.
We definitely feel done now. We said at the start 2-4 kids and no more once dh was 30 and we actually stuck with it!
I always thought i would be one of those people who kept having babies until my body said no more. But 4 feels like a good number. Dh has decided he wants the snip so I know he is serious lol.
Me + he = dd1 (July 07), dd2 (July 10), dd3 (August 13), dd4 (due may 14)
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15-02-2014 14:17 #4Senior Member
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I think I was the least likely person I know to end up having 3 kids (not a really big family, but I am glad we had more than 1 or 2). We married when I was 31. I had my kids at 31, 33 and 37. The last one was a bit of a leap of faith, but so glad we went for a 3rd. I can still do my job (part time at the moment but full time again at some stage) as well as keep the house going smoothly. Most of the time we can hold it all together and it gets easier as they get older. I found 2 under 2 the hardest time of all.
15-02-2014 14:26 #5
Heck no it was never the plan. Lol
I'm due with number 6 in August.
I'm an only child, I thought I'd like to have 3 kids because my cousin had three and I used to babysit them as a teen.
I had two kids with my first husband. Our marriage was failing already and I wanted a third and he just wasn't into that since we had the boy and girl perfect pair.
With my husband now I have 3, soon to be 4. After each one we thought we were done but I love having so much family around after growing up alone.
This will be our last though, as it's our rainbow baby after a miscarriage last year.
My mother has care of my eldest son so there will be 5 kids at home.
My friend is pregnant with her 11th now that I can't imagine.
Sure you have to miss out on a few material things at times because there's more people to care for, but for me family is the most important thing and I love how I unexpectedly ended up with what is considered a large family. It doesn't feel big at all to me.
15-02-2014 14:29 #6
I know that having a 3rd may not be considered large, but I'm 34yrs old and considering a 3rd, but my age is sort of stopping me. I had Ds1 at 29 and Ds2 at 32. If we try now, I'll be 35 when bub is born.
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15-02-2014 14:41 #7
I always knew I wanted a large family I started at 18 I'm now 25 and still haven't finished currently ttc, I have 3 dd so far and 1 dss full time.
I come from a large family 4 siblings & 3 step siblings my dad was 1 of 9 and mum was 1 of 4 so pretty large extended family
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15-02-2014 15:44 #10
Definitely did not plan to have a large family!
We had our first a couple of weeks before my 18th birthday (DH had just turned 20) and our fifth was born when I was 28.
My youngest before him was born when I was 25 and I really wish I had stopped then as I feel way too old to be dealing with a toddler these days (I have just turned 30).
I always said I would NEVER have babies after 30, so we are definitely done now!
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