DD-almost 6 - has started hanging out with the class bullies and I am really worried about their influence on her! Out of these two girls one is a bully and the other is naughty/rude and together they are both bullies.This has just started this year and for years she has had the same best friend but this has suddenly stopped. I asked her if the mean girls told her she couldn't play with her best friend ( this is something they do) but she said no. She seems happy so I don't think they are bulling her and she is very strong-willed so I am not sure they would even be able to bully her to be honest. But she has always been a nice lovely , well behaved girl and the teachers often tried to get teh girls who where being bullied to buddy up with DD.
It's only 2 weeks back at school and for the first time she has told me twice now she was a little bit mean to someone ( but 'A' was meaner then me and made the other girl cry). and has told me she got into a little but of trouble with her teacher.
I've tried talking to her saying it's not nice, how would you feel etc but she doesn't seem to really care that much or take it in - IYKWIM? I have no idea how to but an end to this!
And just for the record - the parents of these have been spoken to about their behavior as it caused a lot of trouble last year and this year a lot of parents requested their children not be in the same class as these girls. I'd never had an issue so i never requested it. The mother of the bully pretty much has a ' suck it up' attitude and her daughter has been a bully way back when they were all in 2.5 Kindy together. She's had nannies every 6 months since birth and her mum basically seems to not give a toss about her daughter so we all know why her daughter is like this ( but this doesn't help matters at all). Talking to her mum is out of the question - she's the type to knock you out. Any ideas anyone?
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08-02-2014 15:44 #1
DD hanging out with the class bullies!
09-02-2014 12:01 #2Senior Member
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I'm no help but just wanted to wish you and your DD well.
Hopefully she figures out that the girls aren't nice And starts to play with her old friends.
09-02-2014 12:34 #3
Have you spoken to the teachers about separating them more in class or encouraging her to play somewhere else out in the yard? Sorry I'm not sure
09-02-2014 12:48 #4
If the girl/s are such a problem I'm surprised the school hasn't taken more action. But as for your issue at hand maybe heavily encourage other friendships outside of school with kids you would prefer her to play with. Make lots of play dates with the nicer ones so when she goes to school she might become more inclined to play with them instead of the meaner ones.
09-02-2014 13:10 #5
My DD is also very strong willed and I have had lots of chats with her about what to do if she sees someone being mean to another child. DD's school encourage kids to step in when they see bullying, standing around watching doing nothing is almost as bad as being the perpetrator.
19-02-2014 21:14 #6
Thanks for your replies everyone. Bit of an update - seems the bullies are starting to turn on her already which I thought might happen. One of the hit her in the face wtih a book the other day and cut her above her eye! Not serious but no-one wants their child coming home from school with a mark on her face! I think she is figuring it out little-by-little. I spoke to the junior school principle about it as there was also another incident that same day to my friends daughter. They are keeping an eye on it they said but TBH I think they down played it a bit. I know they must see this stuff a lot but I can honestly say my DD would never hit someone in the face with something. I spoke to her teacher as well who is trying to encourage her to play with her original friends. On that note - yesterday I watched as she was trying to hang out with her old best friend and this new friend was doing her best to subtly pull DD off with her without being obvious about it so now I at least know why this sudden change has occurred. Thanks all - I was a bit stressed about it last week!
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