We had some. Absolutely no visitors whilst I was in labour or straight after. We said we would let family know when we went to hospital & when bub arrived & when we were happy to have visitors (that afternoon, DD arrived in the early hours of the morning). MIL wanted to be waiting at the hospital but respected our wishes as did everyone else
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04-02-2014 09:31 #31
04-02-2014 10:12 #32
Thanks for the replies everyone!
It has given me a lot to think about. Originally I thought it'll be good to have both of our parents visit while I was in hospital, but they had to be gone once I got home and no more visits for at least 2 weeks. After some thinking I realised I would want my Mum there to help for the first few weeks, but felt it would be unfair to the ILs if I allowed my Mum to visit and not them. Both sides of the family live 2-3hrs away, which means they'll have to stay in our spare room for a few nights. I know if the ILs stay they'll expect me to play hostess, whereas Mum would help out a lot more. It's a tricky situation!
04-02-2014 10:15 #33
We didn't want anyone waiting at the hospital while I was in labour, I wanted to tell our parents when we went to the hospital though so if dh needed some support that we could call one of them in. We told our immediate family when I was told I was being induced the next day/gel that night but reminded them it could still mean 24 hours of labour. I got cuddles straight after birth but half hour of waiting my placenta wouldn't detach naturally so I ended up in theatre and then recovery. So dh wasn't alone we said parents were able to come in and siblings when I got back in room for a short visit. Birth was at 2.30pm though so this was easy, a middle of the night birth we would have prob made them wait until afternoon visiting hours and only had family the first day. Next time we will have dd to introduce and I want to be there for that.
The next day we had about 20 visitors, and I was pretty beat afterwards. So next time I think I'll spread them out a bit more. The few days after we're nice with a few visitors but not an overflowing room for hours.
04-02-2014 11:04 #34Senior Member
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I asked my mother and anyone who wanted to visit the babies to get their whooping cough up to date. At the time whooping cough was everywhere, and a dad had unintentionally brought it onto the ward at the mat hospital, so there were mothers and babies, (one recovering from a c/section) quarantined and fighting whooping cough. It was very scary.
No one had any resistance.
I also had a no visitation in hospital rule, my mother was allowed (our only family near us anyway). But friends waited until we were back home.
04-02-2014 11:21 #35
04-02-2014 11:45 #36
No rules. We only let our parents know immediately after the births (except MIL who knew when I was in labour the second time as she had to come over to get in the spare bed to mind DS) and then sent out a group text several hours later. I was happy for visitors.
Once we got home though we had a rule that people had to wash their hands with alcohol hand wash before coming in (DS was born in that swine flu season and I was paranoid) we had a sign on the door and a bottle of handwash on the table in the entry way.
04-02-2014 11:47 #37
We had no visitors for 24 hrs after DS was born. He was born at 9.30pm, we rang our parents to let them know about an hour later - they didn't know I had gone into labour.
I like visitors though, and none of our family or close friends would ever turn up unannouced, I would get a text asking if it was a good time to visit etc. And most friends try and leave their kids at home which helps as well.
04-02-2014 12:20 #38
I had no rules, but will this time. No visitors on day three. The three day blues hit me like a tonne of bricks and my milk hadn't come in so DS was very hungry and screaming. I hadn't showered yet (emergency c section) and was waiting for the midwives to come help me when BIL's gf turned up. I was sweaty, miserable and just wanted to clean up and rest. I don't much like BIL's gf at the best of times so I was really angry she hadn't asked to come first (most people texted DH) I have since realised she doesn't have the same social respect that most people do and needs to be told explicitly!
04-02-2014 12:46 #39
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