My 19mth old
Feeds herself, takes herself to the toilet (mostly), helps pack up toys, picks pegs up of the floor/hands up to me, puts her dirty clothes in the wash, puts her plate back on the kitchen bench after meals and washes herself in the bath (not well at all). I still wipe her bum after the toilet, pick her clothes and dress her and make her bed.
My 3.5yo toilets herself, wipes her own bum (mostly but occ asks for help), packs toys away (if I specify exactly what each time), picks her own clothes and dresses herself (usually the same fairy outfit), puts on her shoes, washes herself in the bath, puts away her dirty clothes in the wash and makes her bed every morning.
I try to include them in whatever jobs I'm doing. Like HOF the kids help me when I'm cleaning. They have they sponges/chux and we do it together. No new activity can start unless the previous one is packed up and put away.
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02-02-2014 11:16 #21
02-02-2014 11:20 #22
My daughter's only 16 months, so there's nothing I really EXPECT her to do where I'll insist if she doesn't comply.
That said, I try to let her/get her to do as much as possible herself. If she's capable, then I'll just leave her to it or encourage her. Exceptions would be if she asks for help, or if we're really pressed for time.
The majority of the time she feeds herself, puts toys/books away (usually something we do together), gets out cutlery/crockery for her meals, takes bowls back to the kitchen after snacks, brings me things if I ask her to, puts her water bottle back on the bench when she's had a drink, cleans up water/wee on the floor with a towel.
02-02-2014 11:58 #23Senior Member
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02-02-2014 14:19 #24
My almost 3yo ....
Is toilet trained (done it himself), has taken himself with and without the toddler toiletseat and step, or to the potty. He is wanting to wipe himself after #2s!
He can put some shoes on himself, and is improving each day at dressing himself.
He has (of his own accord) ever since ge could walk insists on pouring his dirty clothes in the basket in laundry.
He can top up the dogs water. Likes to feed then too but I try not encourage it as its messy!
Feeds self, mostly with hands has started jerking himself for snacks- fruit, but also loves attempting to make himself a jam sandwich.
Helps pack away toys, wipes table, "helps" vaccum, sweep and mop.
Comes everywhere with me, I'm starting to let him have a say in his clothing... But ill ask something like... "these lego jocks, or these mcqueen ones?" So its a suitable option either way.
He helps wrap presents, make cakes etc.
I've started giving him a shopping list when we shop with the word and a quick picture next to it, with 3 or 4 items....
I try include him in most things but they also aren't "compulsory". He does just love helping!
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02-02-2014 14:25 #25
I just tight I would add, I have 2 brothers who were in their teens when I was born. The first time my (now ex) sil met/seen me, I was about 4, standing on a kitchen chair, up to my elbows in dishes and bubbles in the sink......whilst mum was sitting at the kitchen table asking how I was going.
She has said many times (mostly when I was a teen, so lazy etc) how she thought my mum was so so awful for making such a young child do housework... But how now she knows the truth, she found it funny I wouldnt do then then, and it was only because I wanted to do it I was there... Lol
I think if a toddler is happy to help, great!
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02-02-2014 15:18 #26
My bits are 5 & 2 (3next month). I think what you have outlined is fine OP.
My boys just love cleaning ... I often finding my two year old with the chux wiping down benches ... Although sometimes he moves on to the stainless steel fridge and windows which end up looking a lot less 'clean' than when he started!! Ha
But this is what my 2 year old does (and my 5 year old)
- Feeds himself
- Puts plate and cup in sink when finished
- Wipes up spills (which I then clean properly afterwards)
- Toilet stuff (I still doing a good wipe after number 2s). He even cleans up accidents!! That's not an expectation he's just seen me do it and I catch him cleaning up little wee spills with toilet paper off the seat!
- puts dirty clothes in washing basket
- waters the herb garden
- bakes/cooks (with me)
- hands money to cashiers
- puts items in the shipping trolley
- half heartedly packs away toys (his big brother does the lions share and is so good at it I barely need to help).
- cleans his teeth them I do it afterwards ... I'm aware that he can't do it in his own but he likes to have his turn first. I figure it's good practise.
In addition to this my 5 year old
- gets himself ready for school
- packs his lunchbox into his school bag (I pack his lunch though)
- empties his school bag each arvo and puts lunch containers I the sink.
- makes his bed
- cleans his room
- gives mummy back rubs
I feel it's my job to encourage my children to eventually become independent little beings so I've started with what I feel are age appropriate tasks. There's never been any argument or hassle trying to get them to clean or get ready as it's always been the way in our family. To be honest I barely gave to even ask them to do anything. My boys just clean up after themselves as they go. They also have always packed up an activity before moving into the next as that's what I taught them to do from a very early age. Their room is always clean.
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02-02-2014 15:40 #27Senior Member
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I really don't expect my almost 3yr old to do much at all. I've given up on trying, to be honest!
She dresses herself and picks out her own clothes. Feeds herself and Uses the toilet herself. Brushes her teeth and gets in the car and buckles herself in. These things help me so much while also having a 1yr old who does nothing for himself!
02-02-2014 15:51 #28Senior Member
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My 21 month old DS does quite a lot but I don't expect too much. For example he can feed himself, put stuff in the rubbish etc but I don't always ask him to do it.
Mainly I expect to drink by himself, help clean up a mess if he does it, help put toys away, go to the toilet assisted, listen to instructions and not bite or hit.
03-02-2014 13:35 #29
My 3.5 year old:
Puts his clean washing away (I sort it in piles on his floor and he puts it away)
Help pack up the play area at the end of the day (we do this as a family)
Scrape his plate into the chicken scraps container and put the dirty dishes in the dishwasher
Take his shoes off when we get home and put them away in his cupboard
Wash his hands independently before meals
When it is bath time he needs to get his pyjamas out and bring them into the bathroom
Feed his fish
He still needs help with shirts when getting dressed, wiping his bum and I still brush his teeth after he has had a go.
My 21 month old
Takes her shoes off and puts them away in her cupboard when we get home
Scrapes her plate into the chicken scraps and puts the dirty plate/cup/cutlery etc in the dishwasher
Gets her pyjamas out before her bath
Help pack up the play area before bedtime
Wash her hands before meals
She needs me to wipe her bum, help her get dressed and brush her teeth
They both help me when I do the dusting
I don't pose these as jobs or things to be got through, we all chip in to keep our house running.
03-02-2014 14:19 #30
5yrs 8mths and 2yrs 10mths
- do dishes
- set and clear away the kitchen table
- put dirty clothes in clothes basket
- help hang the washing
- keep bedroom clean
- feed the dogs
- bath themselves and wash his hair
- dress themselves
- make beds in the morning
- feed themselves, help themselves to food and drinks in fridge
- pack toys away after play
- brush teeth twice a day (I do a once over when finished to ensure they are done properly)
- take the chook scraps out and collect the eggs
ds1 also puts on his own shoes and socks and helps clean the pool.
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