I'm not sure where to start. I had a terrible obstetrician and felt bullied by him and my partner to either induce or have a caesarean. They wouldn't let me go to the birth centre or hire a doula. I decided to hire a doula anyway and my husband refused to come to the meeting and would not let her in our house. I hired the doula - she is amazing. I've learned so much in just the last fortnight and I can't imagine delivering without her. She helped me to see that my husband and doctor were not supportive and very controlling. I've since ditched them both and now staying with my brother. I see my doula once or twice a week.
I got got into the birth centre at Royal Hospital for Women. My doula came with me and I felt at ease. However just the site of the medical personnel freaked me out. I feel as though I've been traumatised by my obstetrician and my husband laughing at me and I can't imagine at doctor at my delivery.
long story short I'm thinking about having the baby at home. I can't afford a midwife and my doula has said that she will not help me to deliver the baby or do anything in an emergency. She said I need to hire a midwife and had given me the details of one who sounds awesome. There is another midwife who had Medicare rebate but I don't think she sounds right for me (doesn't allow wen to go more than two weeks overdue and is closely affiliated with obstetricians).
are there any other alternatives?
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01-02-2014 16:27 #1Junior Member
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01-02-2014 17:13 #2
Either way maybe a bit of counseling wouldn't hurt? However you choose to birth you may end up in hospital and dealing with medical staff - id hate for you to be doubly freaked out by doctors AND an emergency situation. Chatting to a close friend or counselor might be able to help you work through dealing with those controlling a**hats (I can't believe they've been so dismissive of your feelings!! Your the pregnant one!!)
Our doula is amazing too Use her for as much support as you can - good luck with your decisions
01-02-2014 17:26 #3
Have you done a tour of the birth centre?
I had DS at the birth centre here in perth a year ago and will be going back in October for number 2. It was wonderful. Not medical at all and the only dr I saw was before discharge to check DS.
I would agree tho that some counselling may be a good start. How far along are you
25-02-2014 19:10 #4Member
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What city do you live in? I've had one hospy birth and two home births.
A lot of midwives will allow you to do a payment plan or pay using your baby bonus.
Another option if your low risk could be the community midwifery program if you live in the right area. I know in MMelbourne
25-02-2014 19:12 #5Member
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I know in Melbourne Casey and Sunshine hospitals run a community midwifery program.
I'm sorry your dealing with so much while you should just be able to enjoy your pregnancy.
Best of luck.
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