DD is 4.5 months and Im also pregnant with bub 2. I feel like Im able to have a break down. I never get anytime to myself to just relax.
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25-01-2014 10:32 #1
25-01-2014 10:51 #2Member
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😢 poor thing! My little one is 3 mths and I'm struggling so I can imaging it could be worse if you're preggas too! See if your partner /family member can take bubs for a while and go get a pregnancy massage or a pedicure. Or even just some extra rest! Take it easy xx
25-01-2014 11:08 #3
Aren't you going to sleep school soon? That may help things?
I find sleep is really one of the biggest variables. Sometimes when 4.5 mth old DD goes to bed at night I'm playing on my phone for up to an hour, then I don't fall asleep easily and feel like crap the next day. Try and limit screen time at night, I find that really stuffs my sleep.
25-01-2014 11:25 #4
I remember that overwhelming feeling when I had my boys. Up all night, busy all day, but at the same time never feeling as though I was getting anything accomplished. As they got older, it got more and more easier. But I waited until they were almost 5 to have another one, so I did get a few years break.
A silver lining~ once your belly babe is 18 months, 2 years or so, you will have WAY more free time. And I know it doesn't help you now, and it seems like forever away, but it will be a perk when it comes around. I think I was a little bit silly waiting so long to have DD, because I had gotten used to being an independent person again, and now I have a little baby all over again!
So what do I do to feel human again? When she sleeps, I say bugger to the housework. I sit down on my fat bum, and laze. I BH, FB, play games on my phone and do NOTHING! When she is awake, that is when I get stuff done. I had a hug-a-bub which made life easier, but she has outgrown that and is not a fan of the wompat which is another carrier I bought to take the HAB's place. So I have become very good at doing things one-handed. But it does get easier all the time as she gets older and gets more interested in playing with her toys- I can sometimes get a solid 5 minute block in!
<- It's a very valid feeling, feeling like you never get any time to yourself- and if need be, ask your partner, your parent, your sibling or a close friend to come over and watch babe while you have a nice quiet bath or do something just for YOU!
25-01-2014 21:36 #5Senior Member
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hugs Blossom. A young bub and being pregnant is a tough combo. My 2 boys are 12.5mths apart and I remember how tough it was trying to look after bub while having morning sickness etc. (and also getting my head around the thought of already being pregnant again!).
It sounds like you really need to find some support from people around you. Can your DP watch bub for a bit when he gets home from work each night? Even just 30mins rest will make you feel a lot better. We set up an agreed time for DH to watch DS and it meant they got to bond more while I got to rest. Do you have other family/friends around that can help you out? Could you find a babysitter who could watch bub while you rest in another room?
It will get easier as your DD gets older, hopefully sleeps better and learns to amuse herself more. Good luck!
25-01-2014 21:53 #6
Your only human and it's pretty darn tough. I was in the same boat, my 2 are 13 months apart and pregnancy was a struggle, the first year with both of them pretty much broke me.... BUT they are 3 and 4 yrs now and it is the best age difference ever, they play together all the time and are best friends.
The first trimester and last trimester is tough going with a baby to look after as well but you will make it through...
I used to remind myself that.... "This too will pass"
And it will.....
Just get through one day at a time, get lots of rest, leave the housework, eat healthy, bond with your baby, build a baby safe area in your house (somewhere that bubs can't escape from because you'll need it in your last trimester) that has a couch you can rest on and a tv, plenty of toys, a mattress on the floor and just chill out as much as possible.
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