Trust your instincts.
If you don't want to leave Bub with don't. Just keep telling her you don't want to leave Bub. That it part of your parenting style. Google attachment parenting and give her some of that info.
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17-01-2014 18:24 #11
17-01-2014 18:28 #12
I think you are extremely fortunate & should be grateful. As someone that has no family around and has not had one night alone with my husband in 5 years I think you should just enjoy that you do have the help and make the most of it when you feel comfortable to do so. If you don't want to leave bub, just don't, it's your child.
17-01-2014 18:32 #13
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17-01-2014 18:35 #14
@ Mumma oj and #1fan, I can kind of see that where your coming from. I guess no one else has been this keen to help out that I just kinda freaked out. I've just never been around people that want t help without being asked and I guess I expected it to be like it is with my mum. Who stands back and supports from a distance.
17-01-2014 18:44 #15
Sounds like she is just excited to have a baby in her life again and wants to help out.
From what you've said i see no reasons for alarm bells she just sounds eager to babysit.
17-01-2014 18:47 #16
Tell her you aren't ready to leave bub but when you are you know where she is.
17-01-2014 18:49 #17Senior Member
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I think I understand you OP. I had a similar thing happen when I had my first baby only I had pnd quite badly and was terribly vulnerable at the time. Instead of love and support my grandmother called me every single day to see if I wanted her to take the baby. If I tried to talk about my feelings she would snatch her from my arms, I was so depressed I just let her take over because I believed her that I wasn't good enough she still recalls those days taking my baby as the best of her life which is horrible to me because they were some of my worst and her happiness came at my expense. I realize your situation is different but the pushiness is the same. I don't think she wants to steal your baby or anything though and maybe she's convinced herself that her only motivation is to help you. But I think she probably just loves your baby and wants as much time as possible with her with little regard for your feelings about it or the fact that you've clearly told her that you don't want to go out and 'have fun'. The alarm bells for you I think is that you can see that this isn't just about helping you if she's pushing the issue despite you saying you didn't need a sitter all the time. That would make me uncomfortable too because she's not operating with respect for your wishes. Its sounds almost like shes trying to manipulate you into leaving her with you more so she can enjoy looking after her. All in all it's probably harmless I suppose but she sounds like she has some selfish motivations as well. This is your baby and your time to bond and enjoy bubs you shouldn't have to be forever having to explain why you want her close.
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18-01-2014 10:09 #20Senior Member
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I get really ****ed off when people tell me I should leave my baby with them when I've already said no a million times. But I don't think there's much you can do, some people only care about what they want, not what's best for you or your baby. Not saying that your aunt is like that but it would still be frustrating not being listened to.
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