When DH is away (FIFO) I focus on essential housework only- meals, washing clothes and doing dishes. The rest can wait until he's home. I make an effort to try and get out of the house at least once every couple of days for some adult contact (whether it's mothers group or just going shopping) or I phone my mum or a sibling for a chat. And once DS is in bed, I make sure to take at least an hour of "me" time.
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15-01-2014 16:43 #11Senior Member
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15-01-2014 17:10 #12
My DH usually gets home at 7.30/8.30 so most often misses every bedtime.
You'll be fine!! Enjoy the quiet time at the end of the day; catch up on some girly tv, clean out a cupboard (maybe that's just my weird happy place haha), read in bed without someone complaining abt the light.
As for cooking; it's true I tend to not eat a proper dinner. Maybe cook up some silverside, a batch of spag Bol. Be prepared for the Witching Hour lol.
I think the fact that you don't need/want your mum over is a good sign.
But make sure you don't stay up too late either; don't get tired and cranky.
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15-01-2014 19:41 #13
I do between 1 and 5 nights a week alone depending on DH's work, even the nights he's home it's usually after the witching hour, and agree that you'll be fine. He's been working less nights lately and I've really fallen behind with my Project Runway episodes!! Nights when he's here he wants to sit and cuddle in front of the TV but I get so much done when he's not here and the kids are in bed. Nothing strenuous like scrubbing showers, just folding, paperwork, research, fixing things etc.
Dinners tend to be lazy-healthy. Eg. Boil some pasta shapes, steam some veg or Steam Fresh sachet of veg, serve with tuna straight from the tin. Salad and oven fries. Rice with grated cheese and veg. He'd look at me like I'd lost the plot if I served it up to him but DD loves it.
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15-01-2014 20:00 #14
You'll be fine. In between now & when he goes cook a bit of extra at dinner time & freeze so you wont need to worry about cooking so much.
If you dont want ur mum to stay just have her over in the daytime to take the pressure off you & give you a break.
Get out & about, plan a few play dates at the park etc
15-01-2014 21:20 #15
I was a single mum so that was normal for me. You'll be totally fine and wonder why you worried, I'm sure of it!
16-01-2014 09:21 #16
I don't have any advice but I am reading along with interest.
My DP is about to go away for 2 weeks, leaving me home alone with a 6 month old and I'm starting to get worried about how I'll cope too.
Good luck, I'm sure you'll be great, it's amazing how strong and organised we can be when we have to be
16-01-2014 10:53 #17Senior Member
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I'm a seasoned FIFO partner. You'll probably feel overwhelmed the first couple of days but you'll soon find your feet and the days will go by quick. You'll be fine! Just keep busy 👍
16-01-2014 13:15 #18Senior Member
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My dh works away for a week at a time, mostly coming back weekends but often used to travel for work for up to 4 weeks. 10 days is doable although you'll miss him for sure!
Make the most of it, watch movies, take baths, do essential housework and just leave the rest, visit people and stay for dinner and bath and then bring the kids home.
The days to get a bit long and lonely but I find myself busy enough with the kids
I hope the time passes by quickly.
16-01-2014 19:19 #19
OP I'm in the same position in a couple of weeks. DF is away on a business trip and I'm left to fend for myself with the kids!! My biggest fear is that one of them will get sick enough that they need to go to hospital, we have a mouse or other unwelcome visitor or I don't keep it together during a duo tantrum. I also don't sleep well when he's not at home. I'm a big BIG sook and scare very easily. I will most likely sleep with one eye open for the first few days.
16-01-2014 20:54 #20
Busy bee set the television on a timer to turn off 30-mins after you've gone to bed. It helps me while DF is away.
I make mostly healthy quick meals while he's away: cold meat and salad, BBQ with salad, pasta carbonara, fish and oven fried chips and salad, pasta bake,tuna bake etc. When DF is home I'll cook extra when making spag Bol, lasagne, curries etc and freeze them.
If you're home early bath the kids early (unless they're messy lol) or have an early big dinner say 430-5 bath kids and later have like a fruit salad or something.
First few days are the hardest.
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