Same with all these 'king hit' deaths, they need to be tougher penalties for bad behaviour, maybe people will think twice before they do it.
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14-01-2014 09:34 #71
14-01-2014 09:35 #72
(my post needs a trigger warning - just a heads up )
Those that are talking about parental responsibility & self awareness are just not getting it.
You can take all the precautions in the world and it could still happen to you.
When you shift any of the 100% blame ANYWHERE else other than the perpetrator you start making excuses for them.
"I shouldn't have been walking alone at night" becomes "she was an easy target, I was able to rape her because she was alone at night"
"I should have known my husband was touching my kids" becomes "she knew wht was happening and never stopped me so she was ok with it"
"I should not have accepted that drink from that man, that was my ticket to bein raped" becomes "she accepted my drink, that's obviously an invitation regardless if she says no"
which then becomes
"I should have gone into the toilet with my child" becomes "well, the mother wasn't supervising, so she obviously didn't care"
Do you all get what I'm saying?
You can be as responsible as a paranoid, overbearing helicopter mum all you like... then what happens if, say, your child is in your own toilet in your own house, and your best friend assaults them. So, it's your fault for not realising your best friend hadn't returned from the toilet before your child goes? It's your fault for not following your child to the toilet in your own house? No. It's the best friends fault. No matter how you twist it, no matter what could have been done to "prevent it".
14-01-2014 09:38 #73
14-01-2014 09:40 #74
Unfortunately it's one of the crosses to bear that you are always alert
Some cases are preventable
Again- you put a car seatbelt on, why not think about it before you send your 2 year old into a public toilet
14-01-2014 09:42 #75
It's 100% the attackers fault, it's disgusting and I hope he gets the book thrown at him.
14-01-2014 09:43 #76
Seems like no matter what the situation, some people find a way to blame the victim. It's horrendous.
Two teenage girls were raped at a Sydney shopping centre recently - by security guards working at the shopping centre. Who can we shift the blame to here - the girls or their parents?
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14-01-2014 09:43 #77
How come with all the 'one punch' deaths we've seen lately the focus is on how terrible the behavior was of the aggressor but with violence against women and children it's 'why was she out alone?' or 'where were their parents?'
Why is violence against men about the perpetrator and violence against women and kids about the victim not being kept (or keeping themselves) safe??
The double standard is distressing.
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14-01-2014 09:47 #79
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Why is it when a man is assaulted it's cowardly and there's calls for harsher punishments etc but when a woman or a child is they shouldn't have been there?
I refuse to live my life in a paranoid state and deny DS from life experiences because there's criminals out there. Anything could happen at any time. And it's nobody but the criminal's fault for choosing to commit a crime.
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